Dr. Laurie Santos

Yeah.

Yeah.

You're more likely to do worse because you're just feeling anxious in most settings because you're beating yourself up on the inside.

You're more likely to do worse because you're just feeling anxious in most settings because you're beating yourself up on the inside.

Turns out that pushing ourselves so hard that we have impossible standards is not really actually good for performance.

Turns out that pushing ourselves so hard that we have impossible standards is not really actually good for performance.

Much better strategy is one of self-compassion.

Much better strategy is one of self-compassion.

of being kind to yourself treating yourself like a friend and i think we don't like especially driven people don't like self-compassion because they confuse it with self-indulgence they think it's oh i'll just let myself off the hook but that's why defining self-compassion is treating yourself like you treat a friend

of being kind to yourself treating yourself like a friend and i think we don't like especially driven people don't like self-compassion because they confuse it with self-indulgence they think it's oh i'll just let myself off the hook but that's why defining self-compassion is treating yourself like you treat a friend

Because if you had a good friend that was really screwing up, that really wasn't putting their all in, I hope you wouldn't scream at them like a drill instructor, but I hope you'd get curious and like problem-solving about, okay, I think you can do better than this.

Because if you had a good friend that was really screwing up, that really wasn't putting their all in, I hope you wouldn't scream at them like a drill instructor, but I hope you'd get curious and like problem-solving about, okay, I think you can do better than this.

What can we do to fix this?

What can we do to fix this?

What can we do to figure this out?

What can we do to figure this out?

What can we figure out what's holding you back?

What can we figure out what's holding you back?

And that's really different than just being like, you suck.

And that's really different than just being like, you suck.