Dr. Laurie Santos

If you're prone to like hustle, hustle, hustle, never give yourself a break, perfectionism at all costs.

If you're prone to like hustle, hustle, hustle, never give yourself a break, perfectionism at all costs.

If you can just lighten up and just try to talk to yourself more like a friend, all the studies show that you'll of course feel better, but maybe more surprisingly, you'll probably perform better too.

If you can just lighten up and just try to talk to yourself more like a friend, all the studies show that you'll of course feel better, but maybe more surprisingly, you'll probably perform better too.

Yeah, I think this is another bias that we have, that our happiness is all about us.

Yeah, I think this is another bias that we have, that our happiness is all about us.

It's like a treat yourself bias, that what I want is me, me, me, my salary, my good things in life, my positive emotion.

It's like a treat yourself bias, that what I want is me, me, me, my salary, my good things in life, my positive emotion.

But all the studies show that the people who self-report being happiest are the people who are the most other-oriented.

But all the studies show that the people who self-report being happiest are the people who are the most other-oriented.

So controlled for income, people who donate more money to charity wind up being happier than those that don't, right?

So controlled for income, people who donate more money to charity wind up being happier than those that don't, right?

Controlled for the amount of free time that people have, people who spend that free time volunteering wind up being happier than those who spend it.

Controlled for the amount of free time that people have, people who spend that free time volunteering wind up being happier than those who spend it.

doing selfish things the key is that other people matter a lot for our happiness and that's other people like our friends and family members it's people who are in need across on the other side of the world right just doing for others winds up making us happier but we absolutely don't realize that

doing selfish things the key is that other people matter a lot for our happiness and that's other people like our friends and family members it's people who are in need across on the other side of the world right just doing for others winds up making us happier but we absolutely don't realize that

When you have a crappy day at work, it's very easy to think, oh, I'm just going to buy myself this little treat.

When you have a crappy day at work, it's very easy to think, oh, I'm just going to buy myself this little treat.

I'm going to go out for a drink myself or I'm going to get a massage or a manicure or something.

I'm going to go out for a drink myself or I'm going to get a massage or a manicure or something.