Dr. Laurie Santos

Because they maybe don't have as much kind of frontal lobe power to go out there and find those good stories. Over the dinner table, what moral goodness did you see today? What was something that delighted you, that kind of made you happy, specifically about what somebody else was doing? We don't share these enough, but the sad thing is, like, they're out there.

We just don't hear about them enough. And so that's one of the reasons I'm so glad y'all are doing this podcast. There's going to be way more stories than that that come out that allow for what researchers call social savoring, or sort of savoring the goodness of other people.

We just don't hear about them enough. And so that's one of the reasons I'm so glad y'all are doing this podcast. There's going to be way more stories than that that come out that allow for what researchers call social savoring, or sort of savoring the goodness of other people.

We just don't hear about them enough. And so that's one of the reasons I'm so glad y'all are doing this podcast. There's going to be way more stories than that that come out that allow for what researchers call social savoring, or sort of savoring the goodness of other people.

Well, your mom might have been a better happiness scientist than you guys thought because she's like reading the evidence out there because that's what the evidence really shows is that it takes some work, but you can do things to feel better even in a horrible situation, right? Even in a horrible situation, there are things you can do to feel a little bit better.

Well, your mom might have been a better happiness scientist than you guys thought because she's like reading the evidence out there because that's what the evidence really shows is that it takes some work, but you can do things to feel better even in a horrible situation, right? Even in a horrible situation, there are things you can do to feel a little bit better.

Well, your mom might have been a better happiness scientist than you guys thought because she's like reading the evidence out there because that's what the evidence really shows is that it takes some work, but you can do things to feel better even in a horrible situation, right? Even in a horrible situation, there are things you can do to feel a little bit better.

And I think one of the biggest ones is really to connect with other people. You know, you talked about the problem of phones leading us away from each other. You talked about the loneliness crisis. Like, you're in a room with lots of other folks right now. You're probably in lots of rooms with lots of other folks. Just talk to them, right? Check in on your friends, reach out to them.

And I think one of the biggest ones is really to connect with other people. You know, you talked about the problem of phones leading us away from each other. You talked about the loneliness crisis. Like, you're in a room with lots of other folks right now. You're probably in lots of rooms with lots of other folks. Just talk to them, right? Check in on your friends, reach out to them.

And I think one of the biggest ones is really to connect with other people. You know, you talked about the problem of phones leading us away from each other. You talked about the loneliness crisis. Like, you're in a room with lots of other folks right now. You're probably in lots of rooms with lots of other folks. Just talk to them, right? Check in on your friends, reach out to them.

These things sound silly, they sound like such a tiny thing to do, but they allow us to get towards more civic action, right? They're really like, in a very tiny way, the basis of democracy, right? Just talking to people and getting to know them, right? And so, in your own small worlds, do that. and reach out to the people that you care about.

These things sound silly, they sound like such a tiny thing to do, but they allow us to get towards more civic action, right? They're really like, in a very tiny way, the basis of democracy, right? Just talking to people and getting to know them, right? And so, in your own small worlds, do that. and reach out to the people that you care about.

These things sound silly, they sound like such a tiny thing to do, but they allow us to get towards more civic action, right? They're really like, in a very tiny way, the basis of democracy, right? Just talking to people and getting to know them, right? And so, in your own small worlds, do that. and reach out to the people that you care about.

We often assume, again, that that's kind of a silly thing to do, but what the studies show is that when you're reaching out to other people, when you're checking in on other people, that boosts your happiness too. So you're ultimately, by doing nice things for others, growing the pie.

We often assume, again, that that's kind of a silly thing to do, but what the studies show is that when you're reaching out to other people, when you're checking in on other people, that boosts your happiness too. So you're ultimately, by doing nice things for others, growing the pie.

We often assume, again, that that's kind of a silly thing to do, but what the studies show is that when you're reaching out to other people, when you're checking in on other people, that boosts your happiness too. So you're ultimately, by doing nice things for others, growing the pie.

And you're giving yourself a little bit more of a sense of hope, because whenever you take action, you're like, oh my gosh, I have some agency. Things can't be that bad. I can make it a little bit better.

And you're giving yourself a little bit more of a sense of hope, because whenever you take action, you're like, oh my gosh, I have some agency. Things can't be that bad. I can make it a little bit better.

And you're giving yourself a little bit more of a sense of hope, because whenever you take action, you're like, oh my gosh, I have some agency. Things can't be that bad. I can make it a little bit better.

Yeah, and I think another thing that we can do, again, kind of channeling your parents, because I think they were on top of this stuff, is what your dad said, right? Find something to be a little bit grateful for. That can feel big in the situation that James is in, right? When it feels like everything is collapsing around you.