Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

I can't find the right words. I start to say it, and then I can't remember what I was going to say. Brain scramble. Because when we're talking... The other person's responsiveness actually helps our brain organize itself and stay on a track of thought because communication is not only intellectual and verbal, it's emotional.

The whole time we're talking, right, our hearts are going, is there a connection there? Our right hemisphere of our brain is saying, is there resonance? Are we on the same wavelength? That's being assessed the whole time we're yammering away with our words. If that's not there, it is an incredibly unsafe experience. You're getting a contradictory signal. They're looking at you.

The whole time we're talking, right, our hearts are going, is there a connection there? Our right hemisphere of our brain is saying, is there resonance? Are we on the same wavelength? That's being assessed the whole time we're yammering away with our words. If that's not there, it is an incredibly unsafe experience. You're getting a contradictory signal. They're looking at you.

The whole time we're talking, right, our hearts are going, is there a connection there? Our right hemisphere of our brain is saying, is there resonance? Are we on the same wavelength? That's being assessed the whole time we're yammering away with our words. If that's not there, it is an incredibly unsafe experience. You're getting a contradictory signal. They're looking at you.

They appear to be listening, but they're not processing it. And then it's like, whoa, the mismatch really pulls you away from the point that you're trying to make. And then it's like you can't remember even what you're trying to do.

They appear to be listening, but they're not processing it. And then it's like, whoa, the mismatch really pulls you away from the point that you're trying to make. And then it's like you can't remember even what you're trying to do.

They appear to be listening, but they're not processing it. And then it's like, whoa, the mismatch really pulls you away from the point that you're trying to make. And then it's like you can't remember even what you're trying to do.

It's the idea that the parent does change and does develop empathy and does stop sort of distorting and dismissing realities that they don't like and starts to be willing to listen to how it has been for the child.

It's the idea that the parent does change and does develop empathy and does stop sort of distorting and dismissing realities that they don't like and starts to be willing to listen to how it has been for the child.

It's the idea that the parent does change and does develop empathy and does stop sort of distorting and dismissing realities that they don't like and starts to be willing to listen to how it has been for the child.

The fantasy is that the parent will be capable of doing that at some point, maybe when they get older, maybe when they don't have so much stress, maybe when I have children as grandma, they will do this or whatever. And so we might say, well, where do they get this from? What would make them think that? Well, it's because sometimes emotionally immature parents can do better and do do better.

The fantasy is that the parent will be capable of doing that at some point, maybe when they get older, maybe when they don't have so much stress, maybe when I have children as grandma, they will do this or whatever. And so we might say, well, where do they get this from? What would make them think that? Well, it's because sometimes emotionally immature parents can do better and do do better.

The fantasy is that the parent will be capable of doing that at some point, maybe when they get older, maybe when they don't have so much stress, maybe when I have children as grandma, they will do this or whatever. And so we might say, well, where do they get this from? What would make them think that? Well, it's because sometimes emotionally immature parents can do better and do do better.

They can be fun. They can be loving. They can be available. They're especially good if you're hurt, sick, need something, you know, some material thing. They can be really Johnny on the spot with that stuff. But it's the emotional comforting and the emotional validation that they have trouble with.

They can be fun. They can be loving. They can be available. They're especially good if you're hurt, sick, need something, you know, some material thing. They can be really Johnny on the spot with that stuff. But it's the emotional comforting and the emotional validation that they have trouble with.

They can be fun. They can be loving. They can be available. They're especially good if you're hurt, sick, need something, you know, some material thing. They can be really Johnny on the spot with that stuff. But it's the emotional comforting and the emotional validation that they have trouble with.

Yes, because you've got the self-reflection going on.

Yes, because you've got the self-reflection going on.

Yes, because you've got the self-reflection going on.

And you have the empathy going on. Because when we lose our cool or we have been too egocentric with our kids or whatever it is, it hurts us. we realize that almost immediately we feel that altruistic need to go back in and repair it. And that is a huge part of being adequately emotionally mature.