Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

That's a very common kind of thing that is carried over into future relationships. Another thing that happens is that people will doubt their ability to communicate. They will feel like, I just can't make myself understood. People who have emotionally immature parents have the experience of trying to communicate and that emotionally immature parent is not interested in what they're saying.

That's a very common kind of thing that is carried over into future relationships. Another thing that happens is that people will doubt their ability to communicate. They will feel like, I just can't make myself understood. People who have emotionally immature parents have the experience of trying to communicate and that emotionally immature parent is not interested in what they're saying.

That's a very common kind of thing that is carried over into future relationships. Another thing that happens is that people will doubt their ability to communicate. They will feel like, I just can't make myself understood. People who have emotionally immature parents have the experience of trying to communicate and that emotionally immature parent is not interested in what they're saying.

So when you're trying to tell somebody something that's important to you and you're trying to communicate it to them and they're looking at you like you have two heads and they are not processing what you're saying, the problem is not your problem itself. with communication, it's their problem with being willing to process what you're telling them.

So when you're trying to tell somebody something that's important to you and you're trying to communicate it to them and they're looking at you like you have two heads and they are not processing what you're saying, the problem is not your problem itself. with communication, it's their problem with being willing to process what you're telling them.

So when you're trying to tell somebody something that's important to you and you're trying to communicate it to them and they're looking at you like you have two heads and they are not processing what you're saying, the problem is not your problem itself. with communication, it's their problem with being willing to process what you're telling them.

If a person really wants to understand you, it doesn't matter how you say it. And if somebody doesn't want to understand you, it doesn't matter how you say it. So people get a very distorted idea about whether they make sense or not. They feel like they don't make sense because the emotionally immature person is not invested in trying to understand them.

If a person really wants to understand you, it doesn't matter how you say it. And if somebody doesn't want to understand you, it doesn't matter how you say it. So people get a very distorted idea about whether they make sense or not. They feel like they don't make sense because the emotionally immature person is not invested in trying to understand them.

If a person really wants to understand you, it doesn't matter how you say it. And if somebody doesn't want to understand you, it doesn't matter how you say it. So people get a very distorted idea about whether they make sense or not. They feel like they don't make sense because the emotionally immature person is not invested in trying to understand them.

They're invested in getting off the hot seat as quickly as possible.

They're invested in getting off the hot seat as quickly as possible.

They're invested in getting off the hot seat as quickly as possible.

Exactly. And you also identify the wrong problem. You think that you need to learn better communication skills. That's not the problem because of what I just said. If someone wants to understand you, they will knock themselves out trying to understand you.

Exactly. And you also identify the wrong problem. You think that you need to learn better communication skills. That's not the problem because of what I just said. If someone wants to understand you, they will knock themselves out trying to understand you.

Exactly. And you also identify the wrong problem. You think that you need to learn better communication skills. That's not the problem because of what I just said. If someone wants to understand you, they will knock themselves out trying to understand you.

Yes. And one of the most telltale qualities of that is when you experience what a colleague of mine, Jenny Walter, she's a coach out in the West Coast, calls brain scramble. So you get around people who are emotionally immature, and you're trying to explain yourself, or you're trying to communicate, and all of a sudden it's like, I don't feel like I'm making any sense.

Yes. And one of the most telltale qualities of that is when you experience what a colleague of mine, Jenny Walter, she's a coach out in the West Coast, calls brain scramble. So you get around people who are emotionally immature, and you're trying to explain yourself, or you're trying to communicate, and all of a sudden it's like, I don't feel like I'm making any sense.

Yes. And one of the most telltale qualities of that is when you experience what a colleague of mine, Jenny Walter, she's a coach out in the West Coast, calls brain scramble. So you get around people who are emotionally immature, and you're trying to explain yourself, or you're trying to communicate, and all of a sudden it's like, I don't feel like I'm making any sense.

I can't find the right words. I start to say it, and then I can't remember what I was going to say. Brain scramble. Because when we're talking... The other person's responsiveness actually helps our brain organize itself and stay on a track of thought because communication is not only intellectual and verbal, it's emotional.

I can't find the right words. I start to say it, and then I can't remember what I was going to say. Brain scramble. Because when we're talking... The other person's responsiveness actually helps our brain organize itself and stay on a track of thought because communication is not only intellectual and verbal, it's emotional.