Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

So the child learns from the passive parents, like, what can you do? That expression, what can you do? They let it go and they learn not to stand up to it or to put boundaries on it.

So the child learns from the passive parents, like, what can you do? That expression, what can you do? They let it go and they learn not to stand up to it or to put boundaries on it.

Mm-hmm.

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Mm-hmm.

Yes. I had a client who said it very well once. She said that when her dad came home, she was always so excited and she would run to greet him. And she said, it was always like I was throwing myself against a closed door. Hmm. All he wanted to do was get in the house, read the paper, didn't want to be bothered.

Yes. I had a client who said it very well once. She said that when her dad came home, she was always so excited and she would run to greet him. And she said, it was always like I was throwing myself against a closed door. Hmm. All he wanted to do was get in the house, read the paper, didn't want to be bothered.

Yes. I had a client who said it very well once. She said that when her dad came home, she was always so excited and she would run to greet him. And she said, it was always like I was throwing myself against a closed door. Hmm. All he wanted to do was get in the house, read the paper, didn't want to be bothered.

The rejecting parent acts as though kids are a nuisance, a bother, and they never wanted them in the first place. So when you're the child of that kind of parent, you learn the best possible relationship with that parent. is achieved through not bothering them, maybe through serving them if you can find a way in, maybe going along with them on things that they like to do.

The rejecting parent acts as though kids are a nuisance, a bother, and they never wanted them in the first place. So when you're the child of that kind of parent, you learn the best possible relationship with that parent. is achieved through not bothering them, maybe through serving them if you can find a way in, maybe going along with them on things that they like to do.

The rejecting parent acts as though kids are a nuisance, a bother, and they never wanted them in the first place. So when you're the child of that kind of parent, you learn the best possible relationship with that parent. is achieved through not bothering them, maybe through serving them if you can find a way in, maybe going along with them on things that they like to do.

But it's not a relationship in which you're going to be allowed to have sort of equal status or even take up as much room as that rejecting parent because you're intruding. You always feel like you're intruding on their energies and interests.

But it's not a relationship in which you're going to be allowed to have sort of equal status or even take up as much room as that rejecting parent because you're intruding. You always feel like you're intruding on their energies and interests.

But it's not a relationship in which you're going to be allowed to have sort of equal status or even take up as much room as that rejecting parent because you're intruding. You always feel like you're intruding on their energies and interests.

One of the things that is going to happen as a result of growing up in this kind of household is that you're probably going to end up feeling very unsure of yourself and there'll be sort of an underlying sense of insecurity that doesn't match what The outside? Yeah. So you end up feeling like you're too much or you need to be thinking of other people overly much.

One of the things that is going to happen as a result of growing up in this kind of household is that you're probably going to end up feeling very unsure of yourself and there'll be sort of an underlying sense of insecurity that doesn't match what The outside? Yeah. So you end up feeling like you're too much or you need to be thinking of other people overly much.

One of the things that is going to happen as a result of growing up in this kind of household is that you're probably going to end up feeling very unsure of yourself and there'll be sort of an underlying sense of insecurity that doesn't match what The outside? Yeah. So you end up feeling like you're too much or you need to be thinking of other people overly much.

But it's really interesting that they will often feel very selfish. That's a word that they'll use. Like when you said earlier, oh, I can't do that or how can I? It's because they feel like they're being selfish. And that sense of, I overwhelm people with my needs. I'm too needy. I should be able to handle everything on my own.

But it's really interesting that they will often feel very selfish. That's a word that they'll use. Like when you said earlier, oh, I can't do that or how can I? It's because they feel like they're being selfish. And that sense of, I overwhelm people with my needs. I'm too needy. I should be able to handle everything on my own.

But it's really interesting that they will often feel very selfish. That's a word that they'll use. Like when you said earlier, oh, I can't do that or how can I? It's because they feel like they're being selfish. And that sense of, I overwhelm people with my needs. I'm too needy. I should be able to handle everything on my own.