Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

Oh, you're never good enough. Perfectionism, procrastination in response to the perfectionism, the feeling like I can't sit down and read a book or someone's going to call me lazy. They'll talk about their relaxing day as if they did something naughty to their friends. Oh, I didn't do anything. I just sat there with my nose in the book. I was really bad today.

There's that kind of judgment put on just being, just existing as a happy living thing on this planet. It's tragic because... We're not made, no animal is made to be pushed to the point where they're performing all the time. It's not healthy. And yet that's the kind of feeling that people get when they grow up under this. Dr. Gibson, can you describe what a passive parent is?

There's that kind of judgment put on just being, just existing as a happy living thing on this planet. It's tragic because... We're not made, no animal is made to be pushed to the point where they're performing all the time. It's not healthy. And yet that's the kind of feeling that people get when they grow up under this. Dr. Gibson, can you describe what a passive parent is?

There's that kind of judgment put on just being, just existing as a happy living thing on this planet. It's tragic because... We're not made, no animal is made to be pushed to the point where they're performing all the time. It's not healthy. And yet that's the kind of feeling that people get when they grow up under this. Dr. Gibson, can you describe what a passive parent is?

Yeah, the passive parent is usually the one that kids really like the best. Right. This is my husband. They are favorites of the kids, and they're often very attuned to the children. They can be playful. They can be almost like peers or playmates. I don't mean to say that they are irresponsible in that way, but they just tend to live and let live.

Yeah, the passive parent is usually the one that kids really like the best. Right. This is my husband. They are favorites of the kids, and they're often very attuned to the children. They can be playful. They can be almost like peers or playmates. I don't mean to say that they are irresponsible in that way, but they just tend to live and let live.

Yeah, the passive parent is usually the one that kids really like the best. Right. This is my husband. They are favorites of the kids, and they're often very attuned to the children. They can be playful. They can be almost like peers or playmates. I don't mean to say that they are irresponsible in that way, but they just tend to live and let live.

And because they don't have that motor driving them, they can be more accessible to the child. oftentimes they are more empathic than the other emotionally immature parent. Like I had a client whose father would always come to her room after the mother had exploded at her. Sometime later, dad would come down, sit on the bed with her, console her, whatever.

And because they don't have that motor driving them, they can be more accessible to the child. oftentimes they are more empathic than the other emotionally immature parent. Like I had a client whose father would always come to her room after the mother had exploded at her. Sometime later, dad would come down, sit on the bed with her, console her, whatever.

And because they don't have that motor driving them, they can be more accessible to the child. oftentimes they are more empathic than the other emotionally immature parent. Like I had a client whose father would always come to her room after the mother had exploded at her. Sometime later, dad would come down, sit on the bed with her, console her, whatever.

Would dad step in when she was being abused? No, no, that's the passive part. They're not protective of the child anymore. They let the other parent get away with murder because, in a way, they're like children who are benefiting from the other parent's energy and the other parent's sort of willingness to dominate the course of things. And they, you know, they live and let live.

Would dad step in when she was being abused? No, no, that's the passive part. They're not protective of the child anymore. They let the other parent get away with murder because, in a way, they're like children who are benefiting from the other parent's energy and the other parent's sort of willingness to dominate the course of things. And they, you know, they live and let live.

Would dad step in when she was being abused? No, no, that's the passive part. They're not protective of the child anymore. They let the other parent get away with murder because, in a way, they're like children who are benefiting from the other parent's energy and the other parent's sort of willingness to dominate the course of things. And they, you know, they live and let live.

But if you do that with your children who are not being treated well, you are not feeling the empathy and you're being really quite egocentric because it feels better to you to not take on that level of involvement. And that's for their benefit, not for their children.

But if you do that with your children who are not being treated well, you are not feeling the empathy and you're being really quite egocentric because it feels better to you to not take on that level of involvement. And that's for their benefit, not for their children.

But if you do that with your children who are not being treated well, you are not feeling the empathy and you're being really quite egocentric because it feels better to you to not take on that level of involvement. And that's for their benefit, not for their children.

Yeah, well, for one thing, you don't feel like you are worthy of protection. You feel like putting up with these things in life, in relationships, it's just part of having a relationship. It's just part of life because that's the way the passive parent is. demonstrated how to deal with this outrageous behavior. They just kind of went along with it.

Yeah, well, for one thing, you don't feel like you are worthy of protection. You feel like putting up with these things in life, in relationships, it's just part of having a relationship. It's just part of life because that's the way the passive parent is. demonstrated how to deal with this outrageous behavior. They just kind of went along with it.

Yeah, well, for one thing, you don't feel like you are worthy of protection. You feel like putting up with these things in life, in relationships, it's just part of having a relationship. It's just part of life because that's the way the passive parent is. demonstrated how to deal with this outrageous behavior. They just kind of went along with it.

So the child learns from the passive parents, like, what can you do? That expression, what can you do? They let it go and they learn not to stand up to it or to put boundaries on it.