Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

And you have the empathy going on. Because when we lose our cool or we have been too egocentric with our kids or whatever it is, it hurts us. we realize that almost immediately we feel that altruistic need to go back in and repair it. And that is a huge part of being adequately emotionally mature.

And you have the empathy going on. Because when we lose our cool or we have been too egocentric with our kids or whatever it is, it hurts us. we realize that almost immediately we feel that altruistic need to go back in and repair it. And that is a huge part of being adequately emotionally mature.

Yeah, all you have to do is imagine what it would be like for your parent to come to you and say, honey, I am so sorry. I was so young. I was so green. I was so involved in this other thing. I didn't even know at the time what I was doing. I mean, you don't even have to be a parent to imagine what what that would feel like coming from anybody.

Yeah, all you have to do is imagine what it would be like for your parent to come to you and say, honey, I am so sorry. I was so young. I was so green. I was so involved in this other thing. I didn't even know at the time what I was doing. I mean, you don't even have to be a parent to imagine what what that would feel like coming from anybody.

Yeah, all you have to do is imagine what it would be like for your parent to come to you and say, honey, I am so sorry. I was so young. I was so green. I was so involved in this other thing. I didn't even know at the time what I was doing. I mean, you don't even have to be a parent to imagine what what that would feel like coming from anybody.

Anybody who says, you know, I've been thinking about how I treated you. I mean, is that not the most precious, unexpected gift that a person can get? It makes you feel so seen, and it also solidifies your The bond between you, and that's what the healing fantasy is. It's almost like the deathbed fantasy. Like, sweetheart, I am so sorry for everything I did. And now I see the light.

Anybody who says, you know, I've been thinking about how I treated you. I mean, is that not the most precious, unexpected gift that a person can get? It makes you feel so seen, and it also solidifies your The bond between you, and that's what the healing fantasy is. It's almost like the deathbed fantasy. Like, sweetheart, I am so sorry for everything I did. And now I see the light.

Anybody who says, you know, I've been thinking about how I treated you. I mean, is that not the most precious, unexpected gift that a person can get? It makes you feel so seen, and it also solidifies your The bond between you, and that's what the healing fantasy is. It's almost like the deathbed fantasy. Like, sweetheart, I am so sorry for everything I did. And now I see the light.

That's the hope. But, you know, children have to have that hope. They have to create that potential in their parent in order to keep adequate hope to keep growing and keep going on.

That's the hope. But, you know, children have to have that hope. They have to create that potential in their parent in order to keep adequate hope to keep growing and keep going on.

That's the hope. But, you know, children have to have that hope. They have to create that potential in their parent in order to keep adequate hope to keep growing and keep going on.

It gets in the way of your healing because it is essentially a kind of reality distortion.

It gets in the way of your healing because it is essentially a kind of reality distortion.

It gets in the way of your healing because it is essentially a kind of reality distortion.

It's because it's such a sad thing. You know, when you realize what you didn't get that you really needed and you begin to feel empathy for yourself, you then feel grief or loss over what you didn't get. The problem is that lots of times people have been talked out of their self-empathy. They've been trained not to take seriously how they feel or how they react.

It's because it's such a sad thing. You know, when you realize what you didn't get that you really needed and you begin to feel empathy for yourself, you then feel grief or loss over what you didn't get. The problem is that lots of times people have been talked out of their self-empathy. They've been trained not to take seriously how they feel or how they react.

It's because it's such a sad thing. You know, when you realize what you didn't get that you really needed and you begin to feel empathy for yourself, you then feel grief or loss over what you didn't get. The problem is that lots of times people have been talked out of their self-empathy. They've been trained not to take seriously how they feel or how they react.

Once we notice the reality of what has happened to us, The grief will help solidify this new understanding or this new reality of what we grew up in, which will give us a solid sense of security. Because now we've got something to put our feet on. We understand that.

Once we notice the reality of what has happened to us, The grief will help solidify this new understanding or this new reality of what we grew up in, which will give us a solid sense of security. Because now we've got something to put our feet on. We understand that.

Once we notice the reality of what has happened to us, The grief will help solidify this new understanding or this new reality of what we grew up in, which will give us a solid sense of security. Because now we've got something to put our feet on. We understand that.