Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

Yes, and it also takes the onus off of you for being able to somehow change this reality. Mm-hmm. That you should be, you know, if you find the right communication style, if you find the right approach. But really what I encourage people to do is if you're going to have contact with the emotionally immature person, Try to go into it aware. Try to stay objective.

Pretend you're an anthropologist and you're there to investigate this new tribe of people and how they conduct themselves and whatever. So you get your intellect in the foreground and you try to stay objective in a way that keeps you from being sucked in emotionally into what I call the emotionally immature relationship system, which is the deal is...

Pretend you're an anthropologist and you're there to investigate this new tribe of people and how they conduct themselves and whatever. So you get your intellect in the foreground and you try to stay objective in a way that keeps you from being sucked in emotionally into what I call the emotionally immature relationship system, which is the deal is...

Pretend you're an anthropologist and you're there to investigate this new tribe of people and how they conduct themselves and whatever. So you get your intellect in the foreground and you try to stay objective in a way that keeps you from being sucked in emotionally into what I call the emotionally immature relationship system, which is the deal is...

you are responsible for my emotional stability and for my self-esteem. Okay, that's the deal. If you go in aware that that's what you're dealing with and that's what's going to happen, you have a chance of avoiding it.

you are responsible for my emotional stability and for my self-esteem. Okay, that's the deal. If you go in aware that that's what you're dealing with and that's what's going to happen, you have a chance of avoiding it.

you are responsible for my emotional stability and for my self-esteem. Okay, that's the deal. If you go in aware that that's what you're dealing with and that's what's going to happen, you have a chance of avoiding it.

Yeah, I suggest a little mantra that which is detach, detach, detach. I mean, every time you get the urge to explain yourself further, or maybe this is the time that, you know, dad will listen to my political views or whatever. It's like detach, detach, detach, because that's where you're power is, is in how you're going to, like out of your book, you know. Let them. Yes, exactly.

Yeah, I suggest a little mantra that which is detach, detach, detach. I mean, every time you get the urge to explain yourself further, or maybe this is the time that, you know, dad will listen to my political views or whatever. It's like detach, detach, detach, because that's where you're power is, is in how you're going to, like out of your book, you know. Let them. Yes, exactly.

Yeah, I suggest a little mantra that which is detach, detach, detach. I mean, every time you get the urge to explain yourself further, or maybe this is the time that, you know, dad will listen to my political views or whatever. It's like detach, detach, detach, because that's where you're power is, is in how you're going to, like out of your book, you know. Let them. Yes, exactly.

Is how you're going to behave or how you're going to approach the situation. That is your point of power because there's no way that you're going to find this secret method of turning an emotionally immature person into someone who cares what you think. okay, or cares how you feel. So I suggest that technique and the anthropologist fantasy. Also to stay very connected to yourself.

Is how you're going to behave or how you're going to approach the situation. That is your point of power because there's no way that you're going to find this secret method of turning an emotionally immature person into someone who cares what you think. okay, or cares how you feel. So I suggest that technique and the anthropologist fantasy. Also to stay very connected to yourself.

Is how you're going to behave or how you're going to approach the situation. That is your point of power because there's no way that you're going to find this secret method of turning an emotionally immature person into someone who cares what you think. okay, or cares how you feel. So I suggest that technique and the anthropologist fantasy. Also to stay very connected to yourself.

And by that, I mean, we tend to dissociate when we're with difficult people. We just kind of zone out, you know, because it's too hard. So when I tell people to, you know, maintain their self-connection, it's like, keep up a running dialogue with yourself. Keep up an active commentary. Rub your arm, cross your arm, squeeze yourself.

And by that, I mean, we tend to dissociate when we're with difficult people. We just kind of zone out, you know, because it's too hard. So when I tell people to, you know, maintain their self-connection, it's like, keep up a running dialogue with yourself. Keep up an active commentary. Rub your arm, cross your arm, squeeze yourself.

And by that, I mean, we tend to dissociate when we're with difficult people. We just kind of zone out, you know, because it's too hard. So when I tell people to, you know, maintain their self-connection, it's like, keep up a running dialogue with yourself. Keep up an active commentary. Rub your arm, cross your arm, squeeze yourself.

Something to bring you back into your body so that you exist just as surely as they do, because you will feel erased. when you get pulled too far into their orbit. The other thing is to find the optimal distance for visits or social contact that allows you to stay in yourself. Like a two-day rule or a no overnights.

Something to bring you back into your body so that you exist just as surely as they do, because you will feel erased. when you get pulled too far into their orbit. The other thing is to find the optimal distance for visits or social contact that allows you to stay in yourself. Like a two-day rule or a no overnights.

Something to bring you back into your body so that you exist just as surely as they do, because you will feel erased. when you get pulled too far into their orbit. The other thing is to find the optimal distance for visits or social contact that allows you to stay in yourself. Like a two-day rule or a no overnights.

Yes. When you go back into your parents' home, I'm sorry, you've just stepped into a time machine. Okay, and you're going back to your childhood self whether you want to or not. So we have to be aware of that susceptibility, that vulnerability, and create for ourselves a set of boundaries or circumstances that we are willing to engage in because we know we can stay in touch with ourselves.