Dr. Lindsay Gibson

Hi, David. I'm doing great.

Hi, David. I'm doing great.

That's what I'm here for.

That's what I'm here for.

Sure. The biggest one is the egocentrism. If you just imagine that a person starts and ends all their consideration with what's best for them or how they see things, that's egocentrism. And, you know, David, I just started watching The Sopranos for the first time. I'm like the only person in America that had not watched The Sopranos. You're in for a treat.

Sure. The biggest one is the egocentrism. If you just imagine that a person starts and ends all their consideration with what's best for them or how they see things, that's egocentrism. And, you know, David, I just started watching The Sopranos for the first time. I'm like the only person in America that had not watched The Sopranos. You're in for a treat.

Yeah, well, I'm on season five now, so I'm, yeah. But if you listen to the dialogue, they completely nailed it. Because everything always comes back the same. to the viewpoint of the person who is the emotionally immature character. It's always all about them. Another one is the lack of empathy. The parent just doesn't get it.

Yeah, well, I'm on season five now, so I'm, yeah. But if you listen to the dialogue, they completely nailed it. Because everything always comes back the same. to the viewpoint of the person who is the emotionally immature character. It's always all about them. Another one is the lack of empathy. The parent just doesn't get it.

They say, why are you so upset about this, or stop it, or this is not a big deal. They cannot enter into the reality of their child's emotional experience. It just doesn't make sense to them. Maybe it's the teenager who wants to talk to their parent about their girlfriend or boyfriend. And then the parent says, oh, tell me about it. That reminds me of your father.

They say, why are you so upset about this, or stop it, or this is not a big deal. They cannot enter into the reality of their child's emotional experience. It just doesn't make sense to them. Maybe it's the teenager who wants to talk to their parent about their girlfriend or boyfriend. And then the parent says, oh, tell me about it. That reminds me of your father.

Let me tell you what he did yesterday. And suddenly, you know, we're back talking about the emotionally immature person's issues with no sense of, you know, sticking to the subject of the other person.

Let me tell you what he did yesterday. And suddenly, you know, we're back talking about the emotionally immature person's issues with no sense of, you know, sticking to the subject of the other person.

Right, right. Where's the line? Okay. If you think of emotional maturity and immaturity as being on a continuum, all of us have a spot that we tend to hang out on that continuum. It doesn't mean that we stay there no matter what. For instance, like, if you're tired or you're sick or you're stressed...

Right, right. Where's the line? Okay. If you think of emotional maturity and immaturity as being on a continuum, all of us have a spot that we tend to hang out on that continuum. It doesn't mean that we stay there no matter what. For instance, like, if you're tired or you're sick or you're stressed...

I can guarantee that you are not going to be as emotionally mature as you could when you're rested and well and not stressed. I mean, that's just what happens. We all slide down the scale when we have those kinds of stresses.

I can guarantee that you are not going to be as emotionally mature as you could when you're rested and well and not stressed. I mean, that's just what happens. We all slide down the scale when we have those kinds of stresses.

However, if you're in one of these other compromised states, you may not be at your finest moment and you may do some things that look immature, but it's going to bother you. You're not going to feel okay about what you did. In fact, you're going to think about what you did. The emotionally immature person, it's like, you know, that was in the past. That was then, this is now.

However, if you're in one of these other compromised states, you may not be at your finest moment and you may do some things that look immature, but it's going to bother you. You're not going to feel okay about what you did. In fact, you're going to think about what you did. The emotionally immature person, it's like, you know, that was in the past. That was then, this is now.

Why are you wallowing in it and why are you still upset? the more emotionally mature person would totally get why you're still upset because they have empathy and because they're self-aware emotionally. They know that you don't get over things just because time passes.

Why are you wallowing in it and why are you still upset? the more emotionally mature person would totally get why you're still upset because they have empathy and because they're self-aware emotionally. They know that you don't get over things just because time passes.