Dr. Lindsay Gibson

We do have something inside us, and this is what I would call the core self, which is very based in the body. It's very based in emotion. And this core self tells us when we are getting what we need or when we're being treated badly.

We do have something inside us, and this is what I would call the core self, which is very based in the body. It's very based in emotion. And this core self tells us when we are getting what we need or when we're being treated badly.

Hey, David. How are you this morning?

Hey, David. How are you this morning?

Oh, no. Yeah. No, I don't think we should do anything without compassion at some level. It's not that we don't want to have compassion, but what I'm talking about is that with the people that I worked with in psychotherapy, the adult children of these emotionally immature parents, the problem was really an excess of compassion, that they were trained and

Oh, no. Yeah. No, I don't think we should do anything without compassion at some level. It's not that we don't want to have compassion, but what I'm talking about is that with the people that I worked with in psychotherapy, the adult children of these emotionally immature parents, the problem was really an excess of compassion, that they were trained and

and guilted and shamed into having for these parents, okay? It's involuntary on the part of the emotionally immature parents, nothing diabolical here. And so when people come to me and they have been conditioned into this sort of compassionate attitude, I take it on myself to have them examine that dynamic

and guilted and shamed into having for these parents, okay? It's involuntary on the part of the emotionally immature parents, nothing diabolical here. And so when people come to me and they have been conditioned into this sort of compassionate attitude, I take it on myself to have them examine that dynamic

What I've seen is that the compassion takes over the instinctual self-preservation, and the person feels too guilty, too ashamed, and too self-doubting to even think about what's healthy for them. Absolutely.

What I've seen is that the compassion takes over the instinctual self-preservation, and the person feels too guilty, too ashamed, and too self-doubting to even think about what's healthy for them. Absolutely.

Yeah, well, I don't think there's much possibility of change unless you have the self-reflection, okay? And you have the self-reflection because you have a sense of self. And you develop the sense of self because your emotional needs have been met And you have been responded to as a little human being early enough that that sense of self gets in there.

Yeah, well, I don't think there's much possibility of change unless you have the self-reflection, okay? And you have the self-reflection because you have a sense of self. And you develop the sense of self because your emotional needs have been met And you have been responded to as a little human being early enough that that sense of self gets in there.

OK, you know, to go back to the Sopranos, that's what his therapist was over five years trying to enjoy how much you've gone back to the Sopranos.

OK, you know, to go back to the Sopranos, that's what his therapist was over five years trying to enjoy how much you've gone back to the Sopranos.

Yeah, well, she got him to start in a minuscule way, self-reflecting. So that makes change possible. I think there are earth-shattering moments that really shift your paradigm, and I think they really shift reality. like permanently shift your view of something or your way of thinking about yourself or other people. And I think that kind of change can happen in a flash.

Yeah, well, she got him to start in a minuscule way, self-reflecting. So that makes change possible. I think there are earth-shattering moments that really shift your paradigm, and I think they really shift reality. like permanently shift your view of something or your way of thinking about yourself or other people. And I think that kind of change can happen in a flash.

It's like something, like a joint goes back into place. There's a click and it's like, ah, that's not what it is. It's this. And that, like everything else starts to reorganize around that new realization. So I think that can happen.

It's like something, like a joint goes back into place. There's a click and it's like, ah, that's not what it is. It's this. And that, like everything else starts to reorganize around that new realization. So I think that can happen.

What I have found though in psychotherapy, the biggest change that people seem to have gotten from therapy is that they have a realization of their own inner experience. They now know how things affect them, what they really feel, what they really think. And they use that now to guide themselves through relationships and through their lives And usually the results are very adaptive, very good.

What I have found though in psychotherapy, the biggest change that people seem to have gotten from therapy is that they have a realization of their own inner experience. They now know how things affect them, what they really feel, what they really think. And they use that now to guide themselves through relationships and through their lives And usually the results are very adaptive, very good.