Dr. Lindsay Gibson

set these limits or you begin to remove yourself from the room when they start up or you tell them, I can't talk to you anymore if you're going to use that kind of language or whatever the limit might be.

No, it really is.

And there are lots of situations that are so constrained by finances and how many advantages you have.

In other

If there were the possibility of them being cared for in a retirement home, that would be great.

Lots of times people have the means to do that, but they want their child to take care of them.

Meanwhile, the child is under a tremendous burden, and it's not good for their health or their mental health.

So anybody in that situation really needs outside support.

They need therapy or they need a support group or they need they need some place where they can get the empathy that obviously that parent is not going to be giving them because it's a tremendous psychological job.

Well, first of all, hats off to anybody that notices that their behavior may be affecting their children negatively or may have affected them negatively.

I mean, how courageous is that, that you are looking at your own behavior, you know, and it's probably painful to do that.

Nobody wants to think that they have caused their child any harm or unhappiness, really.

What we have to realize, though, is where you end up is what you have to deal with.

So let's say that you recognize that maybe you weren't as understanding or patient or thoughtful as you wish you had been with your children.

And now you're seeing the results of that in some way.

You cannot swim back upstream and fix that.

But you can right now attempt to have a more adult, considerate, respectful relationship with them as the adults they are now.

Yeah, yeah, it does.

Because

If you are still caring for your children, if there's still dependence in your home and you're looking back and wishing that you had done something different, then what a perfect opportunity to take parenting classes, to get parenting books.