Dr. Majid Fotuhi

After all, why should people do the things that are convenient for you?

Why?

Because you are not exactly perfect.

Let's face it, we all have our shortcomings.

A lot of people make the mistake that only if my spouse does A and B, my life would be so much better.

Only if my boss was more understanding, my life would be better.

They always have assumptions and expectations of how other people need to be different in order for them to be happy.

And of course, every 10 years there are new issues are becoming new source of stress for them.

I think realizing that stress is a poison for your brain, you should minimize things that stress you out.

Let me give you a little story.

I have two daughters in college and my younger daughter has, and both of my girls come to my lecture sometimes ever since they were little.

My younger daughter was in second grade

and she was supposed to read a simple book and write a review about the book, second grade.

And I realized that two days later, the book was due, her homework was due and she hadn't started working on it.

I said, sweetie, you haven't started reading the book, it's due in two days.

And she said, dad, you're stressing me out and that's not good for my hippocampus.

And I think that's a good way to look at things.

Is the stress that happening to you worth this damage in your brain?

Are you, can you diffuse the situation?

Can you lower the expectation?