Dr. Manuel Sierra

your secrets embarrass you in front of everybody but you know their own they'll keep these things near and dear which is we got to try to help them not to recognize that that's not shameful right that somebody called you names or made you feel horrible or picked on you because you looked a certain way you know we need to be like that's that's not your shame so that's where we kind of work with the kids there is okay let's look at the things that this person's saying to you

your secrets embarrass you in front of everybody but you know their own they'll keep these things near and dear which is we got to try to help them not to recognize that that's not shameful right that somebody called you names or made you feel horrible or picked on you because you looked a certain way you know we need to be like that's that's not your shame so that's where we kind of work with the kids there is okay let's look at the things that this person's saying to you

And this is where I like with David, because it's always about the process. It's not trying to remember some phrases that I'm going to say to them. I mean, that can be helpful in situations. But, you know, a lot of times it's, you know, it's like, OK, you've got this bully who's going to absolutely try to run you down. Right. In terms of the way you look, the way you act, everything.

And this is where I like with David, because it's always about the process. It's not trying to remember some phrases that I'm going to say to them. I mean, that can be helpful in situations. But, you know, a lot of times it's, you know, it's like, OK, you've got this bully who's going to absolutely try to run you down. Right. In terms of the way you look, the way you act, everything.

And it's like, how do I not internalize that? So how does that only get me, you know?

And it's like, how do I not internalize that? So how does that only get me, you know?

this upset or for anybody listening i'm holding my hands kind of you know three inches four inches apart versus this upset where i'm holding way apart you know and then how do i you know keep that duration for this long and again now i'm holding them close together versus that long meaning yes it's embarrassing could be humiliating it Not great. Other kids were sitting there.

this upset or for anybody listening i'm holding my hands kind of you know three inches four inches apart versus this upset where i'm holding way apart you know and then how do i you know keep that duration for this long and again now i'm holding them close together versus that long meaning yes it's embarrassing could be humiliating it Not great. Other kids were sitting there.

That cute girl or boy who I like also laughed because they just said something about, you know, the way I looked or something. And. Now I feel devastated. And I'm going home that night just sitting there curled up in a ball, feeling that pit in my stomach going, oh, I can't believe this person. And everybody in the whole school now thinks I'm a complete idiot or whatever it is.

That cute girl or boy who I like also laughed because they just said something about, you know, the way I looked or something. And. Now I feel devastated. And I'm going home that night just sitting there curled up in a ball, feeling that pit in my stomach going, oh, I can't believe this person. And everybody in the whole school now thinks I'm a complete idiot or whatever it is.

So we're trying to get like, how do we get that? Like, yep, that's embarrassing. Oh, geez. But then I'm not. going home and thinking about it or sitting through the rest of school terrified or embarrassed or humiliated. So those are going to be some of the things that I think we talk about that are great to help kids kind of, how do I address this?

So we're trying to get like, how do we get that? Like, yep, that's embarrassing. Oh, geez. But then I'm not. going home and thinking about it or sitting through the rest of school terrified or embarrassed or humiliated. So those are going to be some of the things that I think we talk about that are great to help kids kind of, how do I address this?

And kind of a process, which you guys know all about the process, which is all these wonderful techniques we use to help make it, to take the teeth out of those kinds of comments and that kind of repeated bullying process.

And kind of a process, which you guys know all about the process, which is all these wonderful techniques we use to help make it, to take the teeth out of those kinds of comments and that kind of repeated bullying process.

Yeah. I mean, it's kind of like I think when we talked about racism, used some examples. But, you know, you guys are obviously do such a great job of looking at automatic thoughts. And I like the way that, you know, we frame them automatic as opposed to their cognitive distortions or, you know, thinking errors and other things.

Yeah. I mean, it's kind of like I think when we talked about racism, used some examples. But, you know, you guys are obviously do such a great job of looking at automatic thoughts. And I like the way that, you know, we frame them automatic as opposed to their cognitive distortions or, you know, thinking errors and other things.

It's like we all get these automatic thoughts, our ability to kind of catch them, recognize them, challenge them. That's where the work's right. That's where we practice and practice and you get better. And I always tell people, I still get embarrassed. I still get anxious. I still get angry. I still feel all of these things.

It's like we all get these automatic thoughts, our ability to kind of catch them, recognize them, challenge them. That's where the work's right. That's where we practice and practice and you get better. And I always tell people, I still get embarrassed. I still get anxious. I still get angry. I still feel all of these things.

Hopefully the difference is, is that it's, you know, kind of for this long, this intensity for that long, instead of, you know, huge intensity for hours or days. And that's by practicing some of the things. And I always tell them too, it's like professional athletes, musicians, they practice all the time. It's not because they're terrible, right?

Hopefully the difference is, is that it's, you know, kind of for this long, this intensity for that long, instead of, you know, huge intensity for hours or days. And that's by practicing some of the things. And I always tell them too, it's like professional athletes, musicians, they practice all the time. It's not because they're terrible, right?