Dr. Marc Brackett

All of us have doctorates. We're all independent. We're all successful doctors. Her children were having struggles, and she was needing to babysit her grandchildren. My father didn't like that. My sons are all taking care of themselves. He's not realizing this, but what he's saying is, I don't like the idea of you spending so much time with these grandkids because I want your attention.

Now, why do I tell you that? Because after my father and I spoke for about a half hour about this, I said, Dad, you know, it sounds like you're jealous. He said, what do you mean I'm jealous? I said, well, you're upset that Jane, your wife, wants to spend more time with the grandkids, and that's not time with you. In my emotion lexicon, I didn't use that term, that's jealousy.

Now, why do I tell you that? Because after my father and I spoke for about a half hour about this, I said, Dad, you know, it sounds like you're jealous. He said, what do you mean I'm jealous? I said, well, you're upset that Jane, your wife, wants to spend more time with the grandkids, and that's not time with you. In my emotion lexicon, I didn't use that term, that's jealousy.

Now, why do I tell you that? Because after my father and I spoke for about a half hour about this, I said, Dad, you know, it sounds like you're jealous. He said, what do you mean I'm jealous? I said, well, you're upset that Jane, your wife, wants to spend more time with the grandkids, and that's not time with you. In my emotion lexicon, I didn't use that term, that's jealousy.

I can't believe you're telling me I'm jealous. I'm like, I'm not telling you you're jealous. You're telling me you're jealous. I'm just giving you the concept. He starts crying, hysterical crying, because he had awareness for the first time of his emotional experience. He was so emotionally illiterate. He just didn't know what he was feeling, and he was just acting out.

I can't believe you're telling me I'm jealous. I'm like, I'm not telling you you're jealous. You're telling me you're jealous. I'm just giving you the concept. He starts crying, hysterical crying, because he had awareness for the first time of his emotional experience. He was so emotionally illiterate. He just didn't know what he was feeling, and he was just acting out.

I can't believe you're telling me I'm jealous. I'm like, I'm not telling you you're jealous. You're telling me you're jealous. I'm just giving you the concept. He starts crying, hysterical crying, because he had awareness for the first time of his emotional experience. He was so emotionally illiterate. He just didn't know what he was feeling, and he was just acting out.

Once he sat down and understood the experience of, like, wife wants to be with child because they need support. I'm not happy with that because I don't know what to do with myself when she's spending time with the grandkids. It's jealousy. All of a sudden, we had a pathway to helping him regulate.

Once he sat down and understood the experience of, like, wife wants to be with child because they need support. I'm not happy with that because I don't know what to do with myself when she's spending time with the grandkids. It's jealousy. All of a sudden, we had a pathway to helping him regulate.

Once he sat down and understood the experience of, like, wife wants to be with child because they need support. I'm not happy with that because I don't know what to do with myself when she's spending time with the grandkids. It's jealousy. All of a sudden, we had a pathway to helping him regulate.

Now, I'll finish this story by saying about two months later, Jane, she calls me, she's like, Mark, I don't know what you did at that coffee shop, but like your father's a changed man. And, you know, I don't take all the credit, take some credit, but it just shows you the power of emotional self-awareness. Like once you really know how you're feeling, it can be liberating.

Now, I'll finish this story by saying about two months later, Jane, she calls me, she's like, Mark, I don't know what you did at that coffee shop, but like your father's a changed man. And, you know, I don't take all the credit, take some credit, but it just shows you the power of emotional self-awareness. Like once you really know how you're feeling, it can be liberating.

Now, I'll finish this story by saying about two months later, Jane, she calls me, she's like, Mark, I don't know what you did at that coffee shop, but like your father's a changed man. And, you know, I don't take all the credit, take some credit, but it just shows you the power of emotional self-awareness. Like once you really know how you're feeling, it can be liberating.

And then you can figure out what you need to do with those feelings.

And then you can figure out what you need to do with those feelings.

And then you can figure out what you need to do with those feelings.

So here I am, a professor at Yale. I'm teaching courses on emotional intelligence. Now, I should just let you know there's resistance oftentimes, and my students are fantastic in general, but there's a resistance to wanting to learn about emotional intelligence. What they want to do in general is get an A in my course,

So here I am, a professor at Yale. I'm teaching courses on emotional intelligence. Now, I should just let you know there's resistance oftentimes, and my students are fantastic in general, but there's a resistance to wanting to learn about emotional intelligence. What they want to do in general is get an A in my course,

So here I am, a professor at Yale. I'm teaching courses on emotional intelligence. Now, I should just let you know there's resistance oftentimes, and my students are fantastic in general, but there's a resistance to wanting to learn about emotional intelligence. What they want to do in general is get an A in my course,

But they don't – and they want to memorize like, oh, so the theory was written in 1990 by Mayer and Salovey.