Dr. Marc Brackett

And then I hand up the phone and I do the same thing and they all listen to me. And then I've spent two hours on the phone telling the same thing over and over again, talking about my feelings. And I feel worse because I've rehearsed it 15 times. That's not emotional intelligence. When we're emotionally intelligent, we recognize and we know that just talking about it is actually not helpful.

And then I hand up the phone and I do the same thing and they all listen to me. And then I've spent two hours on the phone telling the same thing over and over again, talking about my feelings. And I feel worse because I've rehearsed it 15 times. That's not emotional intelligence. When we're emotionally intelligent, we recognize and we know that just talking about it is actually not helpful.

And then I hand up the phone and I do the same thing and they all listen to me. And then I've spent two hours on the phone telling the same thing over and over again, talking about my feelings. And I feel worse because I've rehearsed it 15 times. That's not emotional intelligence. When we're emotionally intelligent, we recognize and we know that just talking about it is actually not helpful.

Like we need to be with someone who's that active listener, who's nonjudgmental, who shows compassion. But when you're compassionate, you actually are bringing you back to the person saying, you know, is this, you know, the right thing right now for you? You know, what else might you think about?

Like we need to be with someone who's that active listener, who's nonjudgmental, who shows compassion. But when you're compassionate, you actually are bringing you back to the person saying, you know, is this, you know, the right thing right now for you? You know, what else might you think about?

Like we need to be with someone who's that active listener, who's nonjudgmental, who shows compassion. But when you're compassionate, you actually are bringing you back to the person saying, you know, is this, you know, the right thing right now for you? You know, what else might you think about?

You know, I know when I've had really difficult experiences, you know, the person who says things like, Maybe could you just jump in the hot air balloon for a minute, Mark, and look down at your life? And besides this one thing that you feel like is the worst thing that's ever happened to you in your whole life, anything else going right? I mean, yeah, my partner loves me.

You know, I know when I've had really difficult experiences, you know, the person who says things like, Maybe could you just jump in the hot air balloon for a minute, Mark, and look down at your life? And besides this one thing that you feel like is the worst thing that's ever happened to you in your whole life, anything else going right? I mean, yeah, my partner loves me.

You know, I know when I've had really difficult experiences, you know, the person who says things like, Maybe could you just jump in the hot air balloon for a minute, Mark, and look down at your life? And besides this one thing that you feel like is the worst thing that's ever happened to you in your whole life, anything else going right? I mean, yeah, my partner loves me.

My dogs love me unconditionally. I got great friends. Oh, yeah. all of a sudden that little thing that's activating you is not so big anymore. That's emotional intelligence, right? Is not getting lost in the empathy, not just endlessly talking about feelings to the point where there's no strategies. And I think that that's really interesting because it goes back to something important, which is

My dogs love me unconditionally. I got great friends. Oh, yeah. all of a sudden that little thing that's activating you is not so big anymore. That's emotional intelligence, right? Is not getting lost in the empathy, not just endlessly talking about feelings to the point where there's no strategies. And I think that that's really interesting because it goes back to something important, which is

My dogs love me unconditionally. I got great friends. Oh, yeah. all of a sudden that little thing that's activating you is not so big anymore. That's emotional intelligence, right? Is not getting lost in the empathy, not just endlessly talking about feelings to the point where there's no strategies. And I think that that's really interesting because it goes back to something important, which is

The permission to feel characteristics of non-judgment, active listening, and empathy, compassion? Never. And I'm talking I have tens of thousands of people who have done this. Does anyone say fixer? problem solver, I don't even get smart or wise.

The permission to feel characteristics of non-judgment, active listening, and empathy, compassion? Never. And I'm talking I have tens of thousands of people who have done this. Does anyone say fixer? problem solver, I don't even get smart or wise.

The permission to feel characteristics of non-judgment, active listening, and empathy, compassion? Never. And I'm talking I have tens of thousands of people who have done this. Does anyone say fixer? problem solver, I don't even get smart or wise.

When we think about the people who create the conditions for us to be our true selves, we don't think about the wisest, smartest, fixer, problem solver. We think about the nonjudgmental listener who shows compassion. And I think that has to be reinforced that some of the fear that

When we think about the people who create the conditions for us to be our true selves, we don't think about the wisest, smartest, fixer, problem solver. We think about the nonjudgmental listener who shows compassion. And I think that has to be reinforced that some of the fear that

When we think about the people who create the conditions for us to be our true selves, we don't think about the wisest, smartest, fixer, problem solver. We think about the nonjudgmental listener who shows compassion. And I think that has to be reinforced that some of the fear that

that we have is that we're gonna get lost in all these feelings, but no one's asking you to get lost in their feelings. What they're asking for is support. They're asking you to just listen and to maybe ask me a few questions to help me clarify my experience and then help me on a path towards feeling better.

that we have is that we're gonna get lost in all these feelings, but no one's asking you to get lost in their feelings. What they're asking for is support. They're asking you to just listen and to maybe ask me a few questions to help me clarify my experience and then help me on a path towards feeling better.