Dr. Marc Brackett

What do I mean? Well, part of emotional intelligence is regulation. And so if I see my work as a cancer doctor as helping people have the best last few months of their lives, that's a really interesting way to think about it. So as I'm in relationship with my patient, my mindset is I've come to the understanding that my job, people pass.

What do I mean? Well, part of emotional intelligence is regulation. And so if I see my work as a cancer doctor as helping people have the best last few months of their lives, that's a really interesting way to think about it. So as I'm in relationship with my patient, my mindset is I've come to the understanding that my job, people pass.

but I could go down a rabbit hole of despair because everyone potentially may pass. Or I can see this as I'm giving someone a gift. I'm giving them a gift of my presence. I'm giving them a gift of them feeling held and cared for. And so to me, it's all about the framing, you know, of empathy.

but I could go down a rabbit hole of despair because everyone potentially may pass. Or I can see this as I'm giving someone a gift. I'm giving them a gift of my presence. I'm giving them a gift of them feeling held and cared for. And so to me, it's all about the framing, you know, of empathy.

but I could go down a rabbit hole of despair because everyone potentially may pass. Or I can see this as I'm giving someone a gift. I'm giving them a gift of my presence. I'm giving them a gift of them feeling held and cared for. And so to me, it's all about the framing, you know, of empathy.

Yes, of course, you know, if you're just, you can lose yourself in someone else's shoes, but that's not emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence saying, you know what, I'm noticing myself, I'm getting lost in your feelings. I need to pull back a little bit.

Yes, of course, you know, if you're just, you can lose yourself in someone else's shoes, but that's not emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence saying, you know what, I'm noticing myself, I'm getting lost in your feelings. I need to pull back a little bit.

Yes, of course, you know, if you're just, you can lose yourself in someone else's shoes, but that's not emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence saying, you know what, I'm noticing myself, I'm getting lost in your feelings. I need to pull back a little bit.

I don't know much about that to be honest. What I know more about is the kind of psychological experience of empathy and that there are multiple forms of it. So for example, there's the cognitive empathy piece where I've never had your experience, But intellectually, I get that you've suffered or intellectually, I get your experience.

I don't know much about that to be honest. What I know more about is the kind of psychological experience of empathy and that there are multiple forms of it. So for example, there's the cognitive empathy piece where I've never had your experience, But intellectually, I get that you've suffered or intellectually, I get your experience.

I don't know much about that to be honest. What I know more about is the kind of psychological experience of empathy and that there are multiple forms of it. So for example, there's the cognitive empathy piece where I've never had your experience, But intellectually, I get that you've suffered or intellectually, I get your experience.

There's the emotional empathy, which is when I meet other survivors of abuse who have felt shame, I understand what that means because I've lived there. And not that our experience was the same, but our feeling was the same. We have a shared emotional experience. And then on top of that, that compassionate kind of form of empathy is what I think is what we need much more of in our society, which is

There's the emotional empathy, which is when I meet other survivors of abuse who have felt shame, I understand what that means because I've lived there. And not that our experience was the same, but our feeling was the same. We have a shared emotional experience. And then on top of that, that compassionate kind of form of empathy is what I think is what we need much more of in our society, which is

There's the emotional empathy, which is when I meet other survivors of abuse who have felt shame, I understand what that means because I've lived there. And not that our experience was the same, but our feeling was the same. We have a shared emotional experience. And then on top of that, that compassionate kind of form of empathy is what I think is what we need much more of in our society, which is

We don't just cognitively understand where someone is or relate to their experience, but we feel compelled to be in relationship with that person and be supportive. I'm thinking about something else that you spoke about earlier, which is this idea that like, and this is a misconstrual of my work and others' work, that the goal of this is to talk about feelings all day long.

We don't just cognitively understand where someone is or relate to their experience, but we feel compelled to be in relationship with that person and be supportive. I'm thinking about something else that you spoke about earlier, which is this idea that like, and this is a misconstrual of my work and others' work, that the goal of this is to talk about feelings all day long.

We don't just cognitively understand where someone is or relate to their experience, but we feel compelled to be in relationship with that person and be supportive. I'm thinking about something else that you spoke about earlier, which is this idea that like, and this is a misconstrual of my work and others' work, that the goal of this is to talk about feelings all day long.

Like the last thing I want to do is talk about my feelings all day long. Like that is not helpful actually. And I've had some experiences in my life, you know, where like some, just to be blunt, shit happens, you know, and I call everybody I know, like my best friends, my family, can you believe this happened? I mean, I can't take it anymore.

Like the last thing I want to do is talk about my feelings all day long. Like that is not helpful actually. And I've had some experiences in my life, you know, where like some, just to be blunt, shit happens, you know, and I call everybody I know, like my best friends, my family, can you believe this happened? I mean, I can't take it anymore.

Like the last thing I want to do is talk about my feelings all day long. Like that is not helpful actually. And I've had some experiences in my life, you know, where like some, just to be blunt, shit happens, you know, and I call everybody I know, like my best friends, my family, can you believe this happened? I mean, I can't take it anymore.