Dr. Marc Brackett

And I remember we were at this one dinner and basically he, I'm not going to repeat what he said because it's really gross, but he said something like, you know, Mark, you think your blank doesn't stink anymore. And I was like, eesh. And then he just kind of went on and on and on. And I had to make a choice.

And I remember we were at this one dinner and basically he, I'm not going to repeat what he said because it's really gross, but he said something like, you know, Mark, you think your blank doesn't stink anymore. And I was like, eesh. And then he just kind of went on and on and on. And I had to make a choice.

Like, do I start crying, you know, like in the middle of this dinner because I feel so violated by my father? Do I like tell him to go blank himself and walk out of the room? And I decided to use a distancing technique. I decided to make him into a movie. I decided that he was now a TV show. And that TV show was something I was observing and not feeling.

Like, do I start crying, you know, like in the middle of this dinner because I feel so violated by my father? Do I like tell him to go blank himself and walk out of the room? And I decided to use a distancing technique. I decided to make him into a movie. I decided that he was now a TV show. And that TV show was something I was observing and not feeling.

Like, do I start crying, you know, like in the middle of this dinner because I feel so violated by my father? Do I like tell him to go blank himself and walk out of the room? And I decided to use a distancing technique. I decided to make him into a movie. I decided that he was now a TV show. And that TV show was something I was observing and not feeling.

And that has proven to be one of the most powerful strategies for me, is when I'm in a position with someone who has a lot of negative energy. And as a kid who was bullied, I'm more affected by these things, I think. I create that psychological distance by just putting that picture frame up there and I just observe it. And I kind of ask myself questions about it. I'm like, wow.

And that has proven to be one of the most powerful strategies for me, is when I'm in a position with someone who has a lot of negative energy. And as a kid who was bullied, I'm more affected by these things, I think. I create that psychological distance by just putting that picture frame up there and I just observe it. And I kind of ask myself questions about it. I'm like, wow.

And that has proven to be one of the most powerful strategies for me, is when I'm in a position with someone who has a lot of negative energy. And as a kid who was bullied, I'm more affected by these things, I think. I create that psychological distance by just putting that picture frame up there and I just observe it. And I kind of ask myself questions about it. I'm like, wow.

Or I say things like, you know, wow, that's really interesting. I wonder where that, I get curious about it. Like, I wonder where that's coming from. You know, what was his childhood like that he's so angry? And it really is helpful. So these are very powerful techniques. That can be used in real time, as you just described. Very real time. I use them all the time.

Or I say things like, you know, wow, that's really interesting. I wonder where that, I get curious about it. Like, I wonder where that's coming from. You know, what was his childhood like that he's so angry? And it really is helpful. So these are very powerful techniques. That can be used in real time, as you just described. Very real time. I use them all the time.

Or I say things like, you know, wow, that's really interesting. I wonder where that, I get curious about it. Like, I wonder where that's coming from. You know, what was his childhood like that he's so angry? And it really is helpful. So these are very powerful techniques. That can be used in real time, as you just described. Very real time. I use them all the time.

You know, I'm at the grocery store, you know, I'm not going to get into my issues, but, you know, I'm like, and I grew up with, you know, I would say lower middle class. We were very, we didn't have a lot of money. Everything was on a budget. And, you know, I'm fortunate to be in a different circumstance now, but I'm still cheap. And so my partner, I'm like, I don't understand.

You know, I'm at the grocery store, you know, I'm not going to get into my issues, but, you know, I'm like, and I grew up with, you know, I would say lower middle class. We were very, we didn't have a lot of money. Everything was on a budget. And, you know, I'm fortunate to be in a different circumstance now, but I'm still cheap. And so my partner, I'm like, I don't understand.

You know, I'm at the grocery store, you know, I'm not going to get into my issues, but, you know, I'm like, and I grew up with, you know, I would say lower middle class. We were very, we didn't have a lot of money. Everything was on a budget. And, you know, I'm fortunate to be in a different circumstance now, but I'm still cheap. And so my partner, I'm like, I don't understand.

We're not buying that. That is ridiculous. We're not spending $7 on a bottle of organic almond milk. I'm not doing it. We're not doing it. And then I have to move away from the islands, take a little walk. I'm like, Mark, you know. Is this worth your relationship, the almond milk? Really? Is this what you're going to do? I don't know.

We're not buying that. That is ridiculous. We're not spending $7 on a bottle of organic almond milk. I'm not doing it. We're not doing it. And then I have to move away from the islands, take a little walk. I'm like, Mark, you know. Is this worth your relationship, the almond milk? Really? Is this what you're going to do? I don't know.

We're not buying that. That is ridiculous. We're not spending $7 on a bottle of organic almond milk. I'm not doing it. We're not doing it. And then I have to move away from the islands, take a little walk. I'm like, Mark, you know. Is this worth your relationship, the almond milk? Really? Is this what you're going to do? I don't know.

Maybe I'm just the only one who needs regulation 300 times a day, but I find that different strategies, like the picture frame works when I'm angry or someone is angry with me. My anxiety, I get into the hot air balloon and I look down. When I'm like irritated with someone, I just take the walk away and I ask myself, is this really that important?

Maybe I'm just the only one who needs regulation 300 times a day, but I find that different strategies, like the picture frame works when I'm angry or someone is angry with me. My anxiety, I get into the hot air balloon and I look down. When I'm like irritated with someone, I just take the walk away and I ask myself, is this really that important?

Maybe I'm just the only one who needs regulation 300 times a day, but I find that different strategies, like the picture frame works when I'm angry or someone is angry with me. My anxiety, I get into the hot air balloon and I look down. When I'm like irritated with someone, I just take the walk away and I ask myself, is this really that important?