Dr. Marc Brackett

And that's what I hope people will learn is that there's so many amazing strategies out there and that we use them interchangeably with different emotions and different contexts.

And that's what I hope people will learn is that there's so many amazing strategies out there and that we use them interchangeably with different emotions and different contexts.

And that's what I hope people will learn is that there's so many amazing strategies out there and that we use them interchangeably with different emotions and different contexts.

Well, emotional is like historically like you're hysterical. It means that you are not in control of your emotions. I don't like to use that term ever. I just find it a useless term. And because that's when oftentimes when people think about emotions, they think of people being emotional. And I just don't even know what that means.

Well, emotional is like historically like you're hysterical. It means that you are not in control of your emotions. I don't like to use that term ever. I just find it a useless term. And because that's when oftentimes when people think about emotions, they think of people being emotional. And I just don't even know what that means.

Well, emotional is like historically like you're hysterical. It means that you are not in control of your emotions. I don't like to use that term ever. I just find it a useless term. And because that's when oftentimes when people think about emotions, they think of people being emotional. And I just don't even know what that means.

It has like just connotations from the past that I don't think are helpful.

It has like just connotations from the past that I don't think are helpful.

It has like just connotations from the past that I don't think are helpful.

Yeah, exactly. You'll hear people say, why are you so emotional? And again, that's a place of judgment. What they're saying is that you're experiencing a strong emotion that's making me uncomfortable. I don't know what to do with that feeling. So by me labeling you as emotional, I can alienate you. where's that going to lead to? Not good communication, right? Not healthy relationships.

Yeah, exactly. You'll hear people say, why are you so emotional? And again, that's a place of judgment. What they're saying is that you're experiencing a strong emotion that's making me uncomfortable. I don't know what to do with that feeling. So by me labeling you as emotional, I can alienate you. where's that going to lead to? Not good communication, right? Not healthy relationships.

Yeah, exactly. You'll hear people say, why are you so emotional? And again, that's a place of judgment. What they're saying is that you're experiencing a strong emotion that's making me uncomfortable. I don't know what to do with that feeling. So by me labeling you as emotional, I can alienate you. where's that going to lead to? Not good communication, right? Not healthy relationships.

It's more of the emotional, the emotional is the judgment. When I say, Andrew, you're so emotional. It also can be a form of gaslighting, which is I'm trying to get you to believe something about yourself that I want you to believe, which may not be a reality at all, which is usually problematic in our society. I think most of our low self-esteem comes from gaslighting in our childhoods.

It's more of the emotional, the emotional is the judgment. When I say, Andrew, you're so emotional. It also can be a form of gaslighting, which is I'm trying to get you to believe something about yourself that I want you to believe, which may not be a reality at all, which is usually problematic in our society. I think most of our low self-esteem comes from gaslighting in our childhoods.

It's more of the emotional, the emotional is the judgment. When I say, Andrew, you're so emotional. It also can be a form of gaslighting, which is I'm trying to get you to believe something about yourself that I want you to believe, which may not be a reality at all, which is usually problematic in our society. I think most of our low self-esteem comes from gaslighting in our childhoods.

Yeah, I think that's the beginning of bullying, which is that Mark, you're too skinny. Mark, you're too overweight. Mark, your nose is too big. Mark, your nose is too small. Mark, you're too feminine. Mark, you're too masculine. And then all of a sudden, there's no feelings mentors. There's no education. And I just start believing it. And then it becomes my reality.

Yeah, I think that's the beginning of bullying, which is that Mark, you're too skinny. Mark, you're too overweight. Mark, your nose is too big. Mark, your nose is too small. Mark, you're too feminine. Mark, you're too masculine. And then all of a sudden, there's no feelings mentors. There's no education. And I just start believing it. And then it becomes my reality.

Yeah, I think that's the beginning of bullying, which is that Mark, you're too skinny. Mark, you're too overweight. Mark, your nose is too big. Mark, your nose is too small. Mark, you're too feminine. Mark, you're too masculine. And then all of a sudden, there's no feelings mentors. There's no education. And I just start believing it. And then it becomes my reality.

It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. And it's awful. I mean, you see it all the time. We're not born being self-critics. We're born being experience-dependent, right? We depend on relationships. And if those relationships are meaning cruel and people are gaslighters, well, guess what? That's going to end up being how we think about ourselves.

It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. And it's awful. I mean, you see it all the time. We're not born being self-critics. We're born being experience-dependent, right? We depend on relationships. And if those relationships are meaning cruel and people are gaslighters, well, guess what? That's going to end up being how we think about ourselves.