Dr. Marc Brackett

It's intention to harm where there's a power imbalance and the repetition of it. Those are the three key factors in bullying. It's repeated. It's intended to harm and is a power imbalance. And so that puts you in a really powerless position when you think about it.

It's intention to harm where there's a power imbalance and the repetition of it. Those are the three key factors in bullying. It's repeated. It's intended to harm and is a power imbalance. And so that puts you in a really powerless position when you think about it.

It's intention to harm where there's a power imbalance and the repetition of it. Those are the three key factors in bullying. It's repeated. It's intended to harm and is a power imbalance. And so that puts you in a really powerless position when you think about it.

When you have nobody to support you, no upstanders, no one else around you to help you get out of the situation, what happens is that you feel fear. And what I felt, and it's been the emotion that I've struggled with my whole life, is shame. Because what happens when you're bullied often is that you are made to feel like you are not worthy. It's diminished self-worth.

When you have nobody to support you, no upstanders, no one else around you to help you get out of the situation, what happens is that you feel fear. And what I felt, and it's been the emotion that I've struggled with my whole life, is shame. Because what happens when you're bullied often is that you are made to feel like you are not worthy. It's diminished self-worth.

When you have nobody to support you, no upstanders, no one else around you to help you get out of the situation, what happens is that you feel fear. And what I felt, and it's been the emotion that I've struggled with my whole life, is shame. Because what happens when you're bullied often is that you are made to feel like you are not worthy. It's diminished self-worth.

Because I've got power over you. I'm going to do whatever the hell I want to you. I'm going to say whatever I want to say. I'm going to spit on you. I'm going to throw you into the locker. I'm going to do crazy stuff, which is what happened to me. And guess what? There's nothing you can do about it. And when you're in an environment where nobody does anything about it, it creates despair.

Because I've got power over you. I'm going to do whatever the hell I want to you. I'm going to say whatever I want to say. I'm going to spit on you. I'm going to throw you into the locker. I'm going to do crazy stuff, which is what happened to me. And guess what? There's nothing you can do about it. And when you're in an environment where nobody does anything about it, it creates despair.

Because I've got power over you. I'm going to do whatever the hell I want to you. I'm going to say whatever I want to say. I'm going to spit on you. I'm going to throw you into the locker. I'm going to do crazy stuff, which is what happened to me. And guess what? There's nothing you can do about it. And when you're in an environment where nobody does anything about it, it creates despair.

So you can see how there's a lot of emotions there. And I'll tell you right now, one of my... hardest memories of being a student when I was around 10 years old is that I remember being in a classroom in math, and I was wearing like a vest, like a down vest as a protection. It was like my thing to hold on to, like my little vest was going to be protective of me.

So you can see how there's a lot of emotions there. And I'll tell you right now, one of my... hardest memories of being a student when I was around 10 years old is that I remember being in a classroom in math, and I was wearing like a vest, like a down vest as a protection. It was like my thing to hold on to, like my little vest was going to be protective of me.

So you can see how there's a lot of emotions there. And I'll tell you right now, one of my... hardest memories of being a student when I was around 10 years old is that I remember being in a classroom in math, and I was wearing like a vest, like a down vest as a protection. It was like my thing to hold on to, like my little vest was going to be protective of me.

The only problem was I had two bullies sitting on either side of me, and what they did throughout the entire class was was they used pen and they just wrote things about me on my jacket. And I can still remember, like you're sitting across from me, you being my teacher, and I can still remember locking eyes with my teacher and him just looking away.

The only problem was I had two bullies sitting on either side of me, and what they did throughout the entire class was was they used pen and they just wrote things about me on my jacket. And I can still remember, like you're sitting across from me, you being my teacher, and I can still remember locking eyes with my teacher and him just looking away.

The only problem was I had two bullies sitting on either side of me, and what they did throughout the entire class was was they used pen and they just wrote things about me on my jacket. And I can still remember, like you're sitting across from me, you being my teacher, and I can still remember locking eyes with my teacher and him just looking away.

And that feeling that you have of complete despair, like how is it that I'm not being protected by this adult in my community? And so... That's the issue that we're trying to solve for. Now, I could make all kinds of excuses about the teacher. Maybe he didn't really notice. I don't buy it because it was repeated over time and it was happening a lot.

And that feeling that you have of complete despair, like how is it that I'm not being protected by this adult in my community? And so... That's the issue that we're trying to solve for. Now, I could make all kinds of excuses about the teacher. Maybe he didn't really notice. I don't buy it because it was repeated over time and it was happening a lot.

And that feeling that you have of complete despair, like how is it that I'm not being protected by this adult in my community? And so... That's the issue that we're trying to solve for. Now, I could make all kinds of excuses about the teacher. Maybe he didn't really notice. I don't buy it because it was repeated over time and it was happening a lot.

I could also say that, you know, maybe he misread my facial expression. I'm not buying that either. I think it was either he had a mindset, you know, this is a rite of passage. You got to toughen up, kiddo, or you're not going to survive in your Clifton High School mindset. Or another point is that he just was like, I have no idea what to do about it and I'm just going to let it go.

I could also say that, you know, maybe he misread my facial expression. I'm not buying that either. I think it was either he had a mindset, you know, this is a rite of passage. You got to toughen up, kiddo, or you're not going to survive in your Clifton High School mindset. Or another point is that he just was like, I have no idea what to do about it and I'm just going to let it go.