Dr. Marc Brackett

Why am I asking you to understand these differences? Go back to your groups and talk about it. And then after like, this is like a 45 minute, like I thought this was going to be like a two minute activity. It turns into like a 45 minute to an hour exercise because they finally realize, oh yeah.

Why am I asking you to understand these differences? Go back to your groups and talk about it. And then after like, this is like a 45 minute, like I thought this was going to be like a two minute activity. It turns into like a 45 minute to an hour exercise because they finally realize, oh yeah.

Why am I asking you to understand these differences? Go back to your groups and talk about it. And then after like, this is like a 45 minute, like I thought this was going to be like a two minute activity. It turns into like a 45 minute to an hour exercise because they finally realize, oh yeah.

So if I'm anxious because I'm worrying about the future, you know, maybe the breathing exercise is not going to be as helpful, right? Because maybe I need a cognitive strategy to say, you know, Mark, stop worrying about the stock market. Mark, stop worrying about the university closed down because of the pandemic. You've got no control over the university's decisions.

So if I'm anxious because I'm worrying about the future, you know, maybe the breathing exercise is not going to be as helpful, right? Because maybe I need a cognitive strategy to say, you know, Mark, stop worrying about the stock market. Mark, stop worrying about the university closed down because of the pandemic. You've got no control over the university's decisions.

So if I'm anxious because I'm worrying about the future, you know, maybe the breathing exercise is not going to be as helpful, right? Because maybe I need a cognitive strategy to say, you know, Mark, stop worrying about the stock market. Mark, stop worrying about the university closed down because of the pandemic. You've got no control over the university's decisions.

And so helping people make connections between the feeling and the reason for the feeling, from my perspective, has been very helpful to help them learn how to regulate the emotion.

And so helping people make connections between the feeling and the reason for the feeling, from my perspective, has been very helpful to help them learn how to regulate the emotion.

And so helping people make connections between the feeling and the reason for the feeling, from my perspective, has been very helpful to help them learn how to regulate the emotion.

I mean, I haven't done the research, but from my perspective, it's not helpful because the goal is to get granular. You know, think about the difference, and I'm not going to quiz you right now, but anger and disappointment. Do you know that 95% of the people that I asked to define those two things cannot do it?

I mean, I haven't done the research, but from my perspective, it's not helpful because the goal is to get granular. You know, think about the difference, and I'm not going to quiz you right now, but anger and disappointment. Do you know that 95% of the people that I asked to define those two things cannot do it?

I mean, I haven't done the research, but from my perspective, it's not helpful because the goal is to get granular. You know, think about the difference, and I'm not going to quiz you right now, but anger and disappointment. Do you know that 95% of the people that I asked to define those two things cannot do it?

So I got an F. But you have a growth mindset, so you're okay. There you go. So disappointment, unmet expectations. Everything was legit. It just didn't work out. Anger, perceived injustice. And that's a really important distinction.

So I got an F. But you have a growth mindset, so you're okay. There you go. So disappointment, unmet expectations. Everything was legit. It just didn't work out. Anger, perceived injustice. And that's a really important distinction.

So I got an F. But you have a growth mindset, so you're okay. There you go. So disappointment, unmet expectations. Everything was legit. It just didn't work out. Anger, perceived injustice. And that's a really important distinction.

Because if you're a parent or someone at work and someone is like yelling and screaming, first of all, we grossly, you know, make mistakes in terms of labeling emotion from behavior. We got to just throw that out. There's no correlation really between behavior and emotion.

Because if you're a parent or someone at work and someone is like yelling and screaming, first of all, we grossly, you know, make mistakes in terms of labeling emotion from behavior. We got to just throw that out. There's no correlation really between behavior and emotion.

Because if you're a parent or someone at work and someone is like yelling and screaming, first of all, we grossly, you know, make mistakes in terms of labeling emotion from behavior. We got to just throw that out. There's no correlation really between behavior and emotion.

I can stomp my feet, you know, as a boy because I'm feeling sad just because it's more culturally acceptable for me to stomp than to cry. And so why are you so angry? Maybe I'm feeling shame. which is my experience, you know, I was yelling and screaming as a kid because I was being bullied so much. And then my mother would be like, you know, who do you think you are talking to me that way?

I can stomp my feet, you know, as a boy because I'm feeling sad just because it's more culturally acceptable for me to stomp than to cry. And so why are you so angry? Maybe I'm feeling shame. which is my experience, you know, I was yelling and screaming as a kid because I was being bullied so much. And then my mother would be like, you know, who do you think you are talking to me that way?