Dr. Marielle Bouquet

That's possible.

Well, it's important because it allows us to see their humanity.

We cannot paint a picture of perfect parenting.

It is a really, really hard, it's an unfair idea to hold against any parent, right?

It's an unfair standard is what I mean.

And so it's going to be really critical that we allow them to be fully human, fully flawed,

and to allow ourselves to experience the flawed parent that we did indeed have.

I just said, allow us to experience, allow us to feel.

A lot of this is about feeling into the things that we tend to avoid, right?

Many times what we want to do is not acknowledge, not touch the topic, not think about it.

But when we dive into it in a safe way, when we dive into it little by little, we're able to really sit with

the reality that's in front of us.

So we've had parents that could have, you know, erred here and there and that they did the best they could.

And for some people that they had parents that really did have malicious intent.

And it's critical, right?

Because the idea that a lot of people have is that a parent knew better and they chose not to do better.

And so if we can think about the possibility that what was handed down was not intentional, it gives us a different way to look at everything, to look at ourselves even.

So it is a very different approach that we take when we can see that many of these wounds were not recognized.

People didn't know that they were there.

They were just living life in the best ways that they could.