Dr. Marisa Franco

So you can capitalize on that mere exposure effect. You have to attend to overcoming something called overt avoidance, which is our tendency to avoid interacting with people generally because they scare us, but also covert avoidance, which is our tendency to, when we show up to interact with other people, we actually close ourselves off mentally. We're on our phone.

We're talking to the one person we already know. We're not introducing ourselves to others. So you also have to overcome covert avoidance by saying to someone at that book club you join, hey, my name's Marissa. How did you like this book? How long have you been coming here?

We're talking to the one person we already know. We're not introducing ourselves to others. So you also have to overcome covert avoidance by saying to someone at that book club you join, hey, my name's Marissa. How did you like this book? How long have you been coming here?

We're talking to the one person we already know. We're not introducing ourselves to others. So you also have to overcome covert avoidance by saying to someone at that book club you join, hey, my name's Marissa. How did you like this book? How long have you been coming here?

after you've been going for a few times, pick the person that you feel like you connect with the most so far, and then ask them like, hey, I'd love for us to keep connecting. Would it be okay with you if we exchange contact information? And then reach out to them to meet up either before or after the next book club event.

after you've been going for a few times, pick the person that you feel like you connect with the most so far, and then ask them like, hey, I'd love for us to keep connecting. Would it be okay with you if we exchange contact information? And then reach out to them to meet up either before or after the next book club event.

after you've been going for a few times, pick the person that you feel like you connect with the most so far, and then ask them like, hey, I'd love for us to keep connecting. Would it be okay with you if we exchange contact information? And then reach out to them to meet up either before or after the next book club event.

And importantly, you'll still have that social infrastructure of the book club, which will continue to nurture the friendship over time, even if you're not consistently reaching out to them. But it's a good idea to also consistently reach out to them to build the friendship.

And importantly, you'll still have that social infrastructure of the book club, which will continue to nurture the friendship over time, even if you're not consistently reaching out to them. But it's a good idea to also consistently reach out to them to build the friendship.

And importantly, you'll still have that social infrastructure of the book club, which will continue to nurture the friendship over time, even if you're not consistently reaching out to them. But it's a good idea to also consistently reach out to them to build the friendship.

Yeah, there's a researcher, Jeffrey Hall, who has his study on how many hours does it take and he finds about 150 hours. But I guess part of me is a little bit skeptical because I know that making a friend also depends on how we interact and there are certain ways we can interact that make us more likely to become friends with one another.

Yeah, there's a researcher, Jeffrey Hall, who has his study on how many hours does it take and he finds about 150 hours. But I guess part of me is a little bit skeptical because I know that making a friend also depends on how we interact and there are certain ways we can interact that make us more likely to become friends with one another.

Yeah, there's a researcher, Jeffrey Hall, who has his study on how many hours does it take and he finds about 150 hours. But I guess part of me is a little bit skeptical because I know that making a friend also depends on how we interact and there are certain ways we can interact that make us more likely to become friends with one another.

So there is a study that followed basically new friends over 12 weeks to predict Who would stay friends over time? For whom would the friendship intensify? And one of the most important factors was whether people shared affection towards each other, you know, compliment each other, praise each other.

So there is a study that followed basically new friends over 12 weeks to predict Who would stay friends over time? For whom would the friendship intensify? And one of the most important factors was whether people shared affection towards each other, you know, compliment each other, praise each other.

So there is a study that followed basically new friends over 12 weeks to predict Who would stay friends over time? For whom would the friendship intensify? And one of the most important factors was whether people shared affection towards each other, you know, compliment each other, praise each other.

And that's, I think, is really, really important for solidifying connection according to a theory called risk regulation theory. Risk regulation theory argues that basically we decide how much to invest in a relationship based on our perception of how likely we are to get rejected. If we think we won't get rejected, we invest more.

And that's, I think, is really, really important for solidifying connection according to a theory called risk regulation theory. Risk regulation theory argues that basically we decide how much to invest in a relationship based on our perception of how likely we are to get rejected. If we think we won't get rejected, we invest more.

And that's, I think, is really, really important for solidifying connection according to a theory called risk regulation theory. Risk regulation theory argues that basically we decide how much to invest in a relationship based on our perception of how likely we are to get rejected. If we think we won't get rejected, we invest more.

And so when you share affection with someone, when you say, oh, I've just really enjoyed your company, or you really made me think when we've hung out together, or I just really appreciate this, like, thank you so much. When we do things like that, we tell people, hey, you're not going to get rejected. And remember how I said fear of rejection is one of the biggest barriers to friendship.