Dr. Marisa Franco

Similarly, when we share affection, we assume it'll come off as more awkward than it will, and we discount how much other people will appreciate it and be thankful for it. And so in general, I think making friends feels like a risk. And it is a risk. Intimacy is a risk. We might be rejected. But it's actually far less likely. It's far less risky than we think it is.

Similarly, when we share affection, we assume it'll come off as more awkward than it will, and we discount how much other people will appreciate it and be thankful for it. And so in general, I think making friends feels like a risk. And it is a risk. Intimacy is a risk. We might be rejected. But it's actually far less likely. It's far less risky than we think it is.

And so I want to encourage anybody who's listening today and is scared to ask someone to hang out who they think is really cool that, hey, they actually might be a lot more likely to be open to it than you think, particularly at a time like now when so many of us have lost friends in the pandemic and are even more open to wanting to connect with you.

And so I want to encourage anybody who's listening today and is scared to ask someone to hang out who they think is really cool that, hey, they actually might be a lot more likely to be open to it than you think, particularly at a time like now when so many of us have lost friends in the pandemic and are even more open to wanting to connect with you.

And so I want to encourage anybody who's listening today and is scared to ask someone to hang out who they think is really cool that, hey, they actually might be a lot more likely to be open to it than you think, particularly at a time like now when so many of us have lost friends in the pandemic and are even more open to wanting to connect with you.

Yeah, and that's real. I think when you're making friends, inevitably you face the risk of rejection, right? And I see rejection as a friendship expert. I really see rejection as a good thing because if you're curating the life that you really want, if you're going for the people that you really want to be part of your social network, inevitably rejection is a consolation prize for that.

Yeah, and that's real. I think when you're making friends, inevitably you face the risk of rejection, right? And I see rejection as a friendship expert. I really see rejection as a good thing because if you're curating the life that you really want, if you're going for the people that you really want to be part of your social network, inevitably rejection is a consolation prize for that.

Yeah, and that's real. I think when you're making friends, inevitably you face the risk of rejection, right? And I see rejection as a friendship expert. I really see rejection as a good thing because if you're curating the life that you really want, if you're going for the people that you really want to be part of your social network, inevitably rejection is a consolation prize for that.

So if you're getting rejected, that means you're initiating. That means you're going for the people that you really want relationship with. that means you're really curating your life.

So if you're getting rejected, that means you're initiating. That means you're going for the people that you really want relationship with. that means you're really curating your life.

So if you're getting rejected, that means you're initiating. That means you're going for the people that you really want relationship with. that means you're really curating your life.

So at the end of the day, like if you're building the skill of initiating, if you're putting yourself out there, if you're living up to your values, I see it as a success, even if the outcome isn't what you hoped for.

So at the end of the day, like if you're building the skill of initiating, if you're putting yourself out there, if you're living up to your values, I see it as a success, even if the outcome isn't what you hoped for.

So at the end of the day, like if you're building the skill of initiating, if you're putting yourself out there, if you're living up to your values, I see it as a success, even if the outcome isn't what you hoped for.

Thank you so much for having me, Mike. Looking forward to listening to the episode.

Thank you so much for having me, Mike. Looking forward to listening to the episode.

Thank you so much for having me, Mike. Looking forward to listening to the episode.