Dr. Martha Beck

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You pay attention to it. And here is the key thing. This is in my new book. I kept this a secret because it sounded so silly. And I thought this would never go in the Ivy League. But there's something I call KIST, K-I-S-T, and it stands for kind internal self-talk. So what do you call yourself when you think to yourself? Andrew, Andy, what do you call yourself?

You pay attention to it. And here is the key thing. This is in my new book. I kept this a secret because it sounded so silly. And I thought this would never go in the Ivy League. But there's something I call KIST, K-I-S-T, and it stands for kind internal self-talk. So what do you call yourself when you think to yourself? Andrew, Andy, what do you call yourself?

You pay attention to it. And here is the key thing. This is in my new book. I kept this a secret because it sounded so silly. And I thought this would never go in the Ivy League. But there's something I call KIST, K-I-S-T, and it stands for kind internal self-talk. So what do you call yourself when you think to yourself? Andrew, Andy, what do you call yourself?

So you'd be sitting there and you don't feel good. You don't feel right. The first thing you do is allow yourself to register every sensation without pushing back, without restricting it. People talk to me about bringing down their anxiety. And I say, how do you feel if I told you I was going to bring you down? That's not a nice thing to say.

So you'd be sitting there and you don't feel good. You don't feel right. The first thing you do is allow yourself to register every sensation without pushing back, without restricting it. People talk to me about bringing down their anxiety. And I say, how do you feel if I told you I was going to bring you down? That's not a nice thing to say.

So you'd be sitting there and you don't feel good. You don't feel right. The first thing you do is allow yourself to register every sensation without pushing back, without restricting it. People talk to me about bringing down their anxiety. And I say, how do you feel if I told you I was going to bring you down? That's not a nice thing to say.

If I told you I'm here to understand you and care about you, better. So just allow yourself to feel all the suffering and then start saying kind things to the one who is suffering, even if it's just tiny suffering. Just go, how are you? How are you doing? Not great? Ah, okay, so there's some anxiety. Oh, your sinuses are blocked too. Let's see, what could we do for you?

If I told you I'm here to understand you and care about you, better. So just allow yourself to feel all the suffering and then start saying kind things to the one who is suffering, even if it's just tiny suffering. Just go, how are you? How are you doing? Not great? Ah, okay, so there's some anxiety. Oh, your sinuses are blocked too. Let's see, what could we do for you?

If I told you I'm here to understand you and care about you, better. So just allow yourself to feel all the suffering and then start saying kind things to the one who is suffering, even if it's just tiny suffering. Just go, how are you? How are you doing? Not great? Ah, okay, so there's some anxiety. Oh, your sinuses are blocked too. Let's see, what could we do for you?

Let's get you a hot drink and like a call with a good friend or a book or something. And you just actively work as your own caregiver from the moment you are conscious in the morning. And what that does is it makes you so compassionate to other people because you're not fighting the suffering in yourself. Right.

Let's get you a hot drink and like a call with a good friend or a book or something. And you just actively work as your own caregiver from the moment you are conscious in the morning. And what that does is it makes you so compassionate to other people because you're not fighting the suffering in yourself. Right.

Let's get you a hot drink and like a call with a good friend or a book or something. And you just actively work as your own caregiver from the moment you are conscious in the morning. And what that does is it makes you so compassionate to other people because you're not fighting the suffering in yourself. Right.

Right. I'm like, I've got some inner adults here who aren't very happy too, you know?

Right. I'm like, I've got some inner adults here who aren't very happy too, you know?

Right. I'm like, I've got some inner adults here who aren't very happy too, you know?