Dr. Martha Beck

As Byron Katie, one of my favorite spiritual teachers says, my favorite thing about separate bodies is that when you hurt, I don't. It's not my turn.

Yeah. Another one is emotion regulation. So you see something that's horrific and you can like, this is where you can use your skills dealing with your emotions. You bring it down. Okay. I'm a surgeon. I'm dealing with a horrible ER accident. I can't feel that. I have to get to work. So that's emotion regulation. You can do that. Self-awareness, emotion regulation. Yeah.

Yeah. Another one is emotion regulation. So you see something that's horrific and you can like, this is where you can use your skills dealing with your emotions. You bring it down. Okay. I'm a surgeon. I'm dealing with a horrible ER accident. I can't feel that. I have to get to work. So that's emotion regulation. You can do that. Self-awareness, emotion regulation. Yeah.

Yeah. Another one is emotion regulation. So you see something that's horrific and you can like, this is where you can use your skills dealing with your emotions. You bring it down. Okay. I'm a surgeon. I'm dealing with a horrible ER accident. I can't feel that. I have to get to work. So that's emotion regulation. You can do that. Self-awareness, emotion regulation. Yeah.

Two other components, but those are the two that I think we really need to focus on. If you hurt, I don't. It's not my turn. And when you're hurting and I start to hurt too much because you're hurting, I can bring myself back into my own body, relax, and be contented in my own skin so that I can be present for you. So here's the thing I love.

Two other components, but those are the two that I think we really need to focus on. If you hurt, I don't. It's not my turn. And when you're hurting and I start to hurt too much because you're hurting, I can bring myself back into my own body, relax, and be contented in my own skin so that I can be present for you. So here's the thing I love.

Two other components, but those are the two that I think we really need to focus on. If you hurt, I don't. It's not my turn. And when you're hurting and I start to hurt too much because you're hurting, I can bring myself back into my own body, relax, and be contented in my own skin so that I can be present for you. So here's the thing I love.

It's a short quote from a poem by Hafiz, who was a 13th century Persian poet. It's so simple. Remember it, though. Troubled? Then stay with me, for I am not.

It's a short quote from a poem by Hafiz, who was a 13th century Persian poet. It's so simple. Remember it, though. Troubled? Then stay with me, for I am not.

It's a short quote from a poem by Hafiz, who was a 13th century Persian poet. It's so simple. Remember it, though. Troubled? Then stay with me, for I am not.

Yeah, that's being yourself in a relationship. Then stay with me for I am not. But I'm really, really unhappy. I see that. And I'm not unhappy. But I really, really want to be together. I really see that that's how you feel. And I don't want it.

Yeah, that's being yourself in a relationship. Then stay with me for I am not. But I'm really, really unhappy. I see that. And I'm not unhappy. But I really, really want to be together. I really see that that's how you feel. And I don't want it.

Yeah, that's being yourself in a relationship. Then stay with me for I am not. But I'm really, really unhappy. I see that. And I'm not unhappy. But I really, really want to be together. I really see that that's how you feel. And I don't want it.

You make it your job to make them happy. And it is never your job to make another person happy. You cannot do it. Happiness is an inside job. You cannot make another person happy. You can't be – You can't go far enough into someone else's sadness to make them happy. You can't go far enough into their sickness to make them well.

You make it your job to make them happy. And it is never your job to make another person happy. You cannot do it. Happiness is an inside job. You cannot make another person happy. You can't be – You can't go far enough into someone else's sadness to make them happy. You can't go far enough into their sickness to make them well.

You make it your job to make them happy. And it is never your job to make another person happy. You cannot do it. Happiness is an inside job. You cannot make another person happy. You can't be – You can't go far enough into someone else's sadness to make them happy. You can't go far enough into their sickness to make them well.

You have to get out of your own sadness and your own sickness and then stay in your integrity with love for them and model what it is to be in your own skin, which is the only one you're ever going to have. My oldest child as a teenager, I was so over-involved and everything. And they gave me a song called Let Me Fall by a man who had fallen from a tree and he broke his spine. He was a paraplegic.

You have to get out of your own sadness and your own sickness and then stay in your integrity with love for them and model what it is to be in your own skin, which is the only one you're ever going to have. My oldest child as a teenager, I was so over-involved and everything. And they gave me a song called Let Me Fall by a man who had fallen from a tree and he broke his spine. He was a paraplegic.

You have to get out of your own sadness and your own sickness and then stay in your integrity with love for them and model what it is to be in your own skin, which is the only one you're ever going to have. My oldest child as a teenager, I was so over-involved and everything. And they gave me a song called Let Me Fall by a man who had fallen from a tree and he broke his spine. He was a paraplegic.

And he just says, the one I will become will catch me. Don't catch me anymore. Don't catch me anymore. And it was so hard as a parent to let my child suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. And what they were telling me, they, them pronouns, was that this is my life and my suffering is my birthright. And I am here to figure it out as I go.