Dr. Martha Beck

Tell me one of the scariest thoughts that comes up when you let your fear speak.

Okay. I'm going to boil that down to you're about to do something stupid and all the alarm is attached to it, right? Yes. Here's the deal. Here's how suffering is your friend. It always tells you the opposite of what you actually need to know. So it's very specific. It's not just, oh, let it go. It'll be fine. That thought, the more suffering it causes, the more it's getting your attention, the

Okay. I'm going to boil that down to you're about to do something stupid and all the alarm is attached to it, right? Yes. Here's the deal. Here's how suffering is your friend. It always tells you the opposite of what you actually need to know. So it's very specific. It's not just, oh, let it go. It'll be fine. That thought, the more suffering it causes, the more it's getting your attention, the

Okay. I'm going to boil that down to you're about to do something stupid and all the alarm is attached to it, right? Yes. Here's the deal. Here's how suffering is your friend. It always tells you the opposite of what you actually need to know. So it's very specific. It's not just, oh, let it go. It'll be fine. That thought, the more suffering it causes, the more it's getting your attention, the

but it's backwards.

but it's backwards.

but it's backwards.

I would say, you know, you've spent all this time getting yourself out of debt and now you're about to do something really brilliant. Feel that? Yes. Yeah. The opposite of the most painful thought in your head, the opposite of that thought is your next step toward awakening.

I would say, you know, you've spent all this time getting yourself out of debt and now you're about to do something really brilliant. Feel that? Yes. Yeah. The opposite of the most painful thought in your head, the opposite of that thought is your next step toward awakening.

I would say, you know, you've spent all this time getting yourself out of debt and now you're about to do something really brilliant. Feel that? Yes. Yeah. The opposite of the most painful thought in your head, the opposite of that thought is your next step toward awakening.

So you have to really listen to the suffering till the point where you're sick of it. Because before that, you're going to cling to this thought. It's part of your ego trying to defend itself. But as we know, trying to cling to things to defend yourself is the way into misery. So I'll never find love again. It will sound radical, but the opposite would be, I will always find love again.

So you have to really listen to the suffering till the point where you're sick of it. Because before that, you're going to cling to this thought. It's part of your ego trying to defend itself. But as we know, trying to cling to things to defend yourself is the way into misery. So I'll never find love again. It will sound radical, but the opposite would be, I will always find love again.

So you have to really listen to the suffering till the point where you're sick of it. Because before that, you're going to cling to this thought. It's part of your ego trying to defend itself. But as we know, trying to cling to things to defend yourself is the way into misery. So I'll never find love again. It will sound radical, but the opposite would be, I will always find love again.

Now, if you sit with that and start to look for ways it could be true, oh, I will always find love. I love that tree outside the window. I love my cat. I love my mother. I love, oh, there's just love everywhere. When you say, I'll always find love, I'll find it everywhere, everything starts to love you back. Try this. Try this. Go into a coffee shop or someplace you like to go to have lunch.

Now, if you sit with that and start to look for ways it could be true, oh, I will always find love. I love that tree outside the window. I love my cat. I love my mother. I love, oh, there's just love everywhere. When you say, I'll always find love, I'll find it everywhere, everything starts to love you back. Try this. Try this. Go into a coffee shop or someplace you like to go to have lunch.

Now, if you sit with that and start to look for ways it could be true, oh, I will always find love. I love that tree outside the window. I love my cat. I love my mother. I love, oh, there's just love everywhere. When you say, I'll always find love, I'll find it everywhere, everything starts to love you back. Try this. Try this. Go into a coffee shop or someplace you like to go to have lunch.

Go in thinking your most painful thought, I'll never find love again. I'll The next day, go in again. But this time, you have to repeat the opposite. I'll always find love everywhere. I'll always find love everywhere. And watch how people react to you. They will open doors for you. They will give you free stuff. They will smile. I'm telling you... People talk about me being woo-woo.

Go in thinking your most painful thought, I'll never find love again. I'll The next day, go in again. But this time, you have to repeat the opposite. I'll always find love everywhere. I'll always find love everywhere. And watch how people react to you. They will open doors for you. They will give you free stuff. They will smile. I'm telling you... People talk about me being woo-woo.

Go in thinking your most painful thought, I'll never find love again. I'll The next day, go in again. But this time, you have to repeat the opposite. I'll always find love everywhere. I'll always find love everywhere. And watch how people react to you. They will open doors for you. They will give you free stuff. They will smile. I'm telling you... People talk about me being woo-woo.

Yeah. Selective attention. You've probably seen that experiment where they have six people bouncing a basketball and you tell someone watching the film, count the times they bounce the ball. In the middle of the film, a person in a gorilla suit comes in and does a little dance and then leaves. And people watching that film are