Dr. Martha Beck

Yeah. Selective attention. You've probably seen that experiment where they have six people bouncing a basketball and you tell someone watching the film, count the times they bounce the ball. In the middle of the film, a person in a gorilla suit comes in and does a little dance and then leaves. And people watching that film are

Yeah. Selective attention. You've probably seen that experiment where they have six people bouncing a basketball and you tell someone watching the film, count the times they bounce the ball. In the middle of the film, a person in a gorilla suit comes in and does a little dance and then leaves. And people watching that film are

don't see the gorilla because they're busy watching the times the ball bounces. And the gorilla is not subtle. It is right in the middle of the frame. It's big. We don't see what we don't pay attention to. So if you are constantly saying, I'm not going to find love, I'm not going to find love, the only things you'll see will be things that make you jealous and hurt and sad.

don't see the gorilla because they're busy watching the times the ball bounces. And the gorilla is not subtle. It is right in the middle of the frame. It's big. We don't see what we don't pay attention to. So if you are constantly saying, I'm not going to find love, I'm not going to find love, the only things you'll see will be things that make you jealous and hurt and sad.

don't see the gorilla because they're busy watching the times the ball bounces. And the gorilla is not subtle. It is right in the middle of the frame. It's big. We don't see what we don't pay attention to. So if you are constantly saying, I'm not going to find love, I'm not going to find love, the only things you'll see will be things that make you jealous and hurt and sad.

And if you walk around thinking, I'm going to see love everywhere always, It happens. The other thing is mirror neurons. Other people's brains, if you took a sip of water, my brain would actually have the same activity in it as if I had taken a sip of water. Our brains are constantly moving to reflect one another. So when you walk around going, there's love everywhere, a person meets your eyes and

And if you walk around thinking, I'm going to see love everywhere always, It happens. The other thing is mirror neurons. Other people's brains, if you took a sip of water, my brain would actually have the same activity in it as if I had taken a sip of water. Our brains are constantly moving to reflect one another. So when you walk around going, there's love everywhere, a person meets your eyes and

And if you walk around thinking, I'm going to see love everywhere always, It happens. The other thing is mirror neurons. Other people's brains, if you took a sip of water, my brain would actually have the same activity in it as if I had taken a sip of water. Our brains are constantly moving to reflect one another. So when you walk around going, there's love everywhere, a person meets your eyes and

and suddenly sees love everywhere, you're giving them a different brain by going around thinking, I'll always find love.

and suddenly sees love everywhere, you're giving them a different brain by going around thinking, I'll always find love.

and suddenly sees love everywhere, you're giving them a different brain by going around thinking, I'll always find love.

They're very related. Yeah, because the biggest reason people consult me is a sense of not having a purpose. And they'll put that above things like heartbreak or disease. Like not having a purpose is really a big problem. And it's really related to being stuck because our knowledge of the direction we want to take is informed by a sense of purpose.

They're very related. Yeah, because the biggest reason people consult me is a sense of not having a purpose. And they'll put that above things like heartbreak or disease. Like not having a purpose is really a big problem. And it's really related to being stuck because our knowledge of the direction we want to take is informed by a sense of purpose.

They're very related. Yeah, because the biggest reason people consult me is a sense of not having a purpose. And they'll put that above things like heartbreak or disease. Like not having a purpose is really a big problem. And it's really related to being stuck because our knowledge of the direction we want to take is informed by a sense of purpose.

And when we don't have a sense of purpose, we have no way of knowing where to go. And that gets us stuck. I do seminars in Africa. And one of the things we do is we take people rhinoceros tracking because that's an obvious thing to do, right? If you don't have a sense of purpose. The rhinoceros is your purpose. You learn to see every sign it leaves on the earth and everything.

And when we don't have a sense of purpose, we have no way of knowing where to go. And that gets us stuck. I do seminars in Africa. And one of the things we do is we take people rhinoceros tracking because that's an obvious thing to do, right? If you don't have a sense of purpose. The rhinoceros is your purpose. You learn to see every sign it leaves on the earth and everything.

And when we don't have a sense of purpose, we have no way of knowing where to go. And that gets us stuck. I do seminars in Africa. And one of the things we do is we take people rhinoceros tracking because that's an obvious thing to do, right? If you don't have a sense of purpose. The rhinoceros is your purpose. You learn to see every sign it leaves on the earth and everything.

And then we take them back to the camp and we say, now you're going to track your purpose the way we track the rhino. And the way you track the track of your purpose is joy in the body. Oh, a sense of joy, lifting or lightness, relaxation in the body is a track. It never says, here's what you're going to be in 20 years or even 20 minutes. It says, here's your next step forward.

And then we take them back to the camp and we say, now you're going to track your purpose the way we track the rhino. And the way you track the track of your purpose is joy in the body. Oh, a sense of joy, lifting or lightness, relaxation in the body is a track. It never says, here's what you're going to be in 20 years or even 20 minutes. It says, here's your next step forward.

And then we take them back to the camp and we say, now you're going to track your purpose the way we track the rhino. And the way you track the track of your purpose is joy in the body. Oh, a sense of joy, lifting or lightness, relaxation in the body is a track. It never says, here's what you're going to be in 20 years or even 20 minutes. It says, here's your next step forward.