Dr. Martha Beck

And you're like, how does that add up? It's the right hemisphere that gives us our sense of meaning, our sense of connection, our sense of joy. And the mind that goes, no, that actually is a completely different part of the brain. Yeah. But as I said, anxiety shuts down creativity, but creativity shuts down anxiety. So while you were doing The Ideal Day, how anxious were you? Zero.

Yeah. And that's how animals live. You know, they don't have... I remember watching this movie about bears. It was called Bears. Right. There's this grizzly ma who comes out of hibernation. She's got two cubs and she's in the sun and they're nursing. And she's like, you know how, I don't know if you nursed, breastfed your kids. You got oxytocin like squirting out of your ears.

Yeah. And that's how animals live. You know, they don't have... I remember watching this movie about bears. It was called Bears. Right. There's this grizzly ma who comes out of hibernation. She's got two cubs and she's in the sun and they're nursing. And she's like, you know how, I don't know if you nursed, breastfed your kids. You got oxytocin like squirting out of your ears.

Yeah. And that's how animals live. You know, they don't have... I remember watching this movie about bears. It was called Bears. Right. There's this grizzly ma who comes out of hibernation. She's got two cubs and she's in the sun and they're nursing. And she's like, you know how, I don't know if you nursed, breastfed your kids. You got oxytocin like squirting out of your ears.

It's the cuddle hormone. And the narrator says, the mother bear is happy, but she's worried about her milk supply. And I'm watching and I'm like, no, she's not. She is most definitively not worrying about anything. Look at her face. It's just language. Some scientists, some psychologists set out to discover why we have all species on Earth.

It's the cuddle hormone. And the narrator says, the mother bear is happy, but she's worried about her milk supply. And I'm watching and I'm like, no, she's not. She is most definitively not worrying about anything. Look at her face. It's just language. Some scientists, some psychologists set out to discover why we have all species on Earth.

It's the cuddle hormone. And the narrator says, the mother bear is happy, but she's worried about her milk supply. And I'm watching and I'm like, no, she's not. She is most definitively not worrying about anything. Look at her face. It's just language. Some scientists, some psychologists set out to discover why we have all species on Earth.

There's a certain proportion of us that take our own lives on purpose. No other animal does that that we know of. And the answer to why we do that is language. because of the way we think in language and time, we can construct a future that is so painful to live with that it outweighs our fear of death. A structure made of nothing but words and thoughts can torture us until we want to die.

There's a certain proportion of us that take our own lives on purpose. No other animal does that that we know of. And the answer to why we do that is language. because of the way we think in language and time, we can construct a future that is so painful to live with that it outweighs our fear of death. A structure made of nothing but words and thoughts can torture us until we want to die.

There's a certain proportion of us that take our own lives on purpose. No other animal does that that we know of. And the answer to why we do that is language. because of the way we think in language and time, we can construct a future that is so painful to live with that it outweighs our fear of death. A structure made of nothing but words and thoughts can torture us until we want to die.

And I lived that way for about 32 years. And then I decided I was going to live in that, the awareness of that light.

And I lived that way for about 32 years. And then I decided I was going to live in that, the awareness of that light.

And I lived that way for about 32 years. And then I decided I was going to live in that, the awareness of that light.

Pretty much. I came out of it and that was when I took my first, what I call an integrity cleanse. I decided not to tell a single lie for a year. Not a lie of any kind. What was that like? you know, don't believe in my religion. There that goes. Okay. Those friends don't like me now. They think I'm the devil. Okay. Bye.

Pretty much. I came out of it and that was when I took my first, what I call an integrity cleanse. I decided not to tell a single lie for a year. Not a lie of any kind. What was that like? you know, don't believe in my religion. There that goes. Okay. Those friends don't like me now. They think I'm the devil. Okay. Bye.

Pretty much. I came out of it and that was when I took my first, what I call an integrity cleanse. I decided not to tell a single lie for a year. Not a lie of any kind. What was that like? you know, don't believe in my religion. There that goes. Okay. Those friends don't like me now. They think I'm the devil. Okay. Bye.

That goes in because I wouldn't say to them, you know, I really, you know, I see where you, I would just go, no, what you're saying makes no sense to me at all. And so I came out of that with a motto, which is burn every bridge, but love. Like if there's a bridge that's connecting you to suffering and tragedy and pain and lack of authenticity, it will kill you. Burn it.

That goes in because I wouldn't say to them, you know, I really, you know, I see where you, I would just go, no, what you're saying makes no sense to me at all. And so I came out of that with a motto, which is burn every bridge, but love. Like if there's a bridge that's connecting you to suffering and tragedy and pain and lack of authenticity, it will kill you. Burn it.

That goes in because I wouldn't say to them, you know, I really, you know, I see where you, I would just go, no, what you're saying makes no sense to me at all. And so I came out of that with a motto, which is burn every bridge, but love. Like if there's a bridge that's connecting you to suffering and tragedy and pain and lack of authenticity, it will kill you. Burn it.

I'm much more gentle with clients. I just say, maybe try a day where you don't lie at all and just notice the places where you have been lying and don't lie to yourself.