Dr. Martha Beck

I'm much more gentle with clients. I just say, maybe try a day where you don't lie at all and just notice the places where you have been lying and don't lie to yourself.

I'm much more gentle with clients. I just say, maybe try a day where you don't lie at all and just notice the places where you have been lying and don't lie to yourself.

Over and over, you notice that you are lying to fit in, that it's all about what I call the social self, that you know not to lie about things like, did I leave the stove on? But when you're with someone who says, oh, I just love you, and you feel that they don't, Just notice, oh, I would have gone along with that and kind of believed it before. Oh, okay.

Over and over, you notice that you are lying to fit in, that it's all about what I call the social self, that you know not to lie about things like, did I leave the stove on? But when you're with someone who says, oh, I just love you, and you feel that they don't, Just notice, oh, I would have gone along with that and kind of believed it before. Oh, okay.

Over and over, you notice that you are lying to fit in, that it's all about what I call the social self, that you know not to lie about things like, did I leave the stove on? But when you're with someone who says, oh, I just love you, and you feel that they don't, Just notice, oh, I would have gone along with that and kind of believed it before. Oh, okay.

And I would, during that year, I was so clumsy. So people would say, oh, I really miss you. And I would say something like, I miss the concept of you as a friend. And people were so put off and so offended. But I was in agony. And I had to get out. And every truth I told, it's true. The truth will set you free.

And I would, during that year, I was so clumsy. So people would say, oh, I really miss you. And I would say something like, I miss the concept of you as a friend. And people were so put off and so offended. But I was in agony. And I had to get out. And every truth I told, it's true. The truth will set you free.

And I would, during that year, I was so clumsy. So people would say, oh, I really miss you. And I would say something like, I miss the concept of you as a friend. And people were so put off and so offended. But I was in agony. And I had to get out. And every truth I told, it's true. The truth will set you free.

But it's the truth about little things like, am I lying to make the other person feel good? You can say what you're going to say, but know that you're telling a lie. And don't tell it to yourself. And that will set you free. Hmm.

But it's the truth about little things like, am I lying to make the other person feel good? You can say what you're going to say, but know that you're telling a lie. And don't tell it to yourself. And that will set you free. Hmm.

But it's the truth about little things like, am I lying to make the other person feel good? You can say what you're going to say, but know that you're telling a lie. And don't tell it to yourself. And that will set you free. Hmm.

Everybody gets lost. And the thing is that we live in a cloudy world. It's very hard to see the North Star if it's cloudy all the time. And the thoughts we are told to think are like clouds. So if you think the thought, I'm not good enough, that's a huge cloud bank. As long as you believe that, you won't be able to see the stars. So where does that leave you?

Everybody gets lost. And the thing is that we live in a cloudy world. It's very hard to see the North Star if it's cloudy all the time. And the thoughts we are told to think are like clouds. So if you think the thought, I'm not good enough, that's a huge cloud bank. As long as you believe that, you won't be able to see the stars. So where does that leave you?

Everybody gets lost. And the thing is that we live in a cloudy world. It's very hard to see the North Star if it's cloudy all the time. And the thoughts we are told to think are like clouds. So if you think the thought, I'm not good enough, that's a huge cloud bank. As long as you believe that, you won't be able to see the stars. So where does that leave you?

Well, it leaves you with several inbuilt compasses that are always turning toward true north, no matter how cloudy it gets. The most reliable one is your body. It will give you suffering as a gift to stop you from going any direction but north.

Well, it leaves you with several inbuilt compasses that are always turning toward true north, no matter how cloudy it gets. The most reliable one is your body. It will give you suffering as a gift to stop you from going any direction but north.

Well, it leaves you with several inbuilt compasses that are always turning toward true north, no matter how cloudy it gets. The most reliable one is your body. It will give you suffering as a gift to stop you from going any direction but north.

And it will say pain, pain, pain, pain. You hear it out. And then you get to the core of it and you say, the opposite of that is north. The opposite of that is my truth, is my destiny, is my purpose. And I know it will be hard to imagine that. It's very hard, but just sitting with it. The reason I wrote about anxiety is that I'd written a book about integrity.

And it will say pain, pain, pain, pain. You hear it out. And then you get to the core of it and you say, the opposite of that is north. The opposite of that is my truth, is my destiny, is my purpose. And I know it will be hard to imagine that. It's very hard, but just sitting with it. The reason I wrote about anxiety is that I'd written a book about integrity.

And it will say pain, pain, pain, pain. You hear it out. And then you get to the core of it and you say, the opposite of that is north. The opposite of that is my truth, is my destiny, is my purpose. And I know it will be hard to imagine that. It's very hard, but just sitting with it. The reason I wrote about anxiety is that I'd written a book about integrity.