Dr. Martha Beck

Decades. Yes. Decades. Yeah. So the first thing, it's not enough to say, go get oil paints. You'll feel good. No, there are three steps. And I remember them with the acronym CAT, K-A-T. So A is art making things and T is transformation and transcendence, but K is kindness and everything depends on kindness. I There's something I call KIST, K-I-S-T, kind internal self-talk.

When you're afraid, just say these things. You don't have to believe them. Say it to yourself all day long. I'm here. It's okay. You're all right. I've got you. You're going to get through this. I've got you. I'm here. It's okay. Maybe let's get a blanket. Would you like some tea? Tell me everything. I'm listening. Oh, that sounds like it hurts. You're loved. I'm here. You're okay.

When you're afraid, just say these things. You don't have to believe them. Say it to yourself all day long. I'm here. It's okay. You're all right. I've got you. You're going to get through this. I've got you. I'm here. It's okay. Maybe let's get a blanket. Would you like some tea? Tell me everything. I'm listening. Oh, that sounds like it hurts. You're loved. I'm here. You're okay.

When you're afraid, just say these things. You don't have to believe them. Say it to yourself all day long. I'm here. It's okay. You're all right. I've got you. You're going to get through this. I've got you. I'm here. It's okay. Maybe let's get a blanket. Would you like some tea? Tell me everything. I'm listening. Oh, that sounds like it hurts. You're loved. I'm here. You're okay.

That's how I've gotten out of the deepest, most horrific fear. And let me tell you, it was bad. And that was the only thing that brought me back from the darkness. And so when I'm working with people, I used to be all like, let's build your ideal life. And now I'm like, good. We know your ideal life now. Tell me about your fear. Tell me everything.

That's how I've gotten out of the deepest, most horrific fear. And let me tell you, it was bad. And that was the only thing that brought me back from the darkness. And so when I'm working with people, I used to be all like, let's build your ideal life. And now I'm like, good. We know your ideal life now. Tell me about your fear. Tell me everything.

That's how I've gotten out of the deepest, most horrific fear. And let me tell you, it was bad. And that was the only thing that brought me back from the darkness. And so when I'm working with people, I used to be all like, let's build your ideal life. And now I'm like, good. We know your ideal life now. Tell me about your fear. Tell me everything.

You're going to be okay.

You're going to be okay.

You're going to be okay.

I would say not a single painful experience you're having will ever be wasted. Hear me now, understand me later. Nothing is ever wasted. You've never made a wrong choice. You're only here to experience life as this sort of hapless little creature. Nothing you do is wrong because your soul is here to experience life and your soul is not afraid to suffer. But its destiny will always be joy.

I would say not a single painful experience you're having will ever be wasted. Hear me now, understand me later. Nothing is ever wasted. You've never made a wrong choice. You're only here to experience life as this sort of hapless little creature. Nothing you do is wrong because your soul is here to experience life and your soul is not afraid to suffer. But its destiny will always be joy.

I would say not a single painful experience you're having will ever be wasted. Hear me now, understand me later. Nothing is ever wasted. You've never made a wrong choice. You're only here to experience life as this sort of hapless little creature. Nothing you do is wrong because your soul is here to experience life and your soul is not afraid to suffer. But its destiny will always be joy.

And there will only be more joy because of everything you've suffered. It's all precious. It's all good. You've never put a foot wrong.

And there will only be more joy because of everything you've suffered. It's all precious. It's all good. You've never put a foot wrong.

And there will only be more joy because of everything you've suffered. It's all precious. It's all good. You've never put a foot wrong.

I was listening to the sound of the planets. These NASA spacecraft go by and they get radio waves and can transform them into sounds. NASA space sounds. Go Google it. It's great. And my son Adam walked by and he did a double take and he can barely talk. But he came into the room and he said, what are those sounds? I have those sounds in my body. And we were like, you do? He was like, yeah.

I was listening to the sound of the planets. These NASA spacecraft go by and they get radio waves and can transform them into sounds. NASA space sounds. Go Google it. It's great. And my son Adam walked by and he did a double take and he can barely talk. But he came into the room and he said, what are those sounds? I have those sounds in my body. And we were like, you do? He was like, yeah.

I was listening to the sound of the planets. These NASA spacecraft go by and they get radio waves and can transform them into sounds. NASA space sounds. Go Google it. It's great. And my son Adam walked by and he did a double take and he can barely talk. But he came into the room and he said, what are those sounds? I have those sounds in my body. And we were like, you do? He was like, yeah.

We said, well, that's the planets. And he was like, oh, the message. And he said, like, and we were like, what? He said, message, like the call. We said, oh, message. He said, yeah. And I said, so the planets are sending us a message? And he said, yes, always. And I said, what's the message? And he said, that we're safe. We're safe. I know it doesn't feel that way.