Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor

is incredibly risky right so we can have all this physiological change but if if our body isn't resilient enough where it actually breaks during that time this is something we need to get ahead of so thinking about this public health model of bereavement We can think of sort of at the foundation, even just understanding in a grief literacy kind of way, what can I expect? What is happening to me?

Why is this happening to me? That is a psychoeducation level that is vitally important to people, regardless of sort of how much support they have. Now, many people will go to bereavement support groups even just to get that, right? Even just to get good evidence-based support. information, places that are no longer teaching the five stages of grieving, for example.

Why is this happening to me? That is a psychoeducation level that is vitally important to people, regardless of sort of how much support they have. Now, many people will go to bereavement support groups even just to get that, right? Even just to get good evidence-based support. information, places that are no longer teaching the five stages of grieving, for example.

Why is this happening to me? That is a psychoeducation level that is vitally important to people, regardless of sort of how much support they have. Now, many people will go to bereavement support groups even just to get that, right? Even just to get good evidence-based support. information, places that are no longer teaching the five stages of grieving, for example.

And beyond that, we know how important support is, social support, having loved ones around, just as you were describing. And I think one of the reasons, I mean, imagine In that first seven days after your spouse dies, if there is someone in your house sitting Shiva, they are going to notice if you have a heart attack, right?

And beyond that, we know how important support is, social support, having loved ones around, just as you were describing. And I think one of the reasons, I mean, imagine In that first seven days after your spouse dies, if there is someone in your house sitting Shiva, they are going to notice if you have a heart attack, right?

And beyond that, we know how important support is, social support, having loved ones around, just as you were describing. And I think one of the reasons, I mean, imagine In that first seven days after your spouse dies, if there is someone in your house sitting Shiva, they are going to notice if you have a heart attack, right?

So think about the idea that we might outsource our physiological regulation for a while. Think of it this way. When we bond with someone, when you fall in love with your partner, say, for example, they become your external pacemaker. Right? Think about co-regulation.

So think about the idea that we might outsource our physiological regulation for a while. Think of it this way. When we bond with someone, when you fall in love with your partner, say, for example, they become your external pacemaker. Right? Think about co-regulation.

So think about the idea that we might outsource our physiological regulation for a while. Think of it this way. When we bond with someone, when you fall in love with your partner, say, for example, they become your external pacemaker. Right? Think about co-regulation.

If I go home now and I get a hug from my partner, just the way you were describing, I know that my blood pressure will drop a little bit. My heart rate will drop a little bit. Now suddenly I have to imagine walking into an empty house where that's not going to happen. My cardiovascular system has to figure out how am I going to walk into my home again and again and again and regulate my heart rate.

If I go home now and I get a hug from my partner, just the way you were describing, I know that my blood pressure will drop a little bit. My heart rate will drop a little bit. Now suddenly I have to imagine walking into an empty house where that's not going to happen. My cardiovascular system has to figure out how am I going to walk into my home again and again and again and regulate my heart rate.

If I go home now and I get a hug from my partner, just the way you were describing, I know that my blood pressure will drop a little bit. My heart rate will drop a little bit. Now suddenly I have to imagine walking into an empty house where that's not going to happen. My cardiovascular system has to figure out how am I going to walk into my home again and again and again and regulate my heart rate.

Yes, exactly.

Yes, exactly.

Yes, exactly.

all the subconscious processing. I should be, I'm doing the same motion of turning the key in the lock that I've always done. And now there's a hole in the room when I enter it.

all the subconscious processing. I should be, I'm doing the same motion of turning the key in the lock that I've always done. And now there's a hole in the room when I enter it.

all the subconscious processing. I should be, I'm doing the same motion of turning the key in the lock that I've always done. And now there's a hole in the room when I enter it.

Absolutely.