Dr. Matt May

And when you allowed her to just let it out and you accepted her while she was doing that, she learned, oh, it's actually OK to feel really angry about what happened to me. And so it's OK to have these intense feelings and images. And now I don't have to be perfect anymore or contain myself. I can go out in public without feeling ashamed.

And when you allowed her to just let it out and you accepted her while she was doing that, she learned, oh, it's actually OK to feel really angry about what happened to me. And so it's OK to have these intense feelings and images. And now I don't have to be perfect anymore or contain myself. I can go out in public without feeling ashamed.

Go ahead. One other quick thought occurred to me is that a fear of transportation would also be useful to her if she was off to school. if she just couldn't come back home to where that person was who had molested her.

Go ahead. One other quick thought occurred to me is that a fear of transportation would also be useful to her if she was off to school. if she just couldn't come back home to where that person was who had molested her.

So it's good to be afraid of transportation. I just can't come home. I'm too afraid rather than acknowledging how angry she was.

So it's good to be afraid of transportation. I just can't come home. I'm too afraid rather than acknowledging how angry she was.

Sure, I can start. I mean, I think first I'd begin with a lot of empathy that he's probably really pissed off and angry. He's doing all this stuff and it's not helping someone. It's not providing him with useful information that he can apply. And it's probably painful for him to be going through this. And maybe he just needs to let it out and vent a little bit.

Sure, I can start. I mean, I think first I'd begin with a lot of empathy that he's probably really pissed off and angry. He's doing all this stuff and it's not helping someone. It's not providing him with useful information that he can apply. And it's probably painful for him to be going through this. And maybe he just needs to let it out and vent a little bit.

talk to me about his feelings of frustration or annoyance or anger. What is that like for him? And then if he's feeling understood and I'm getting him, I'd ask him if there's some type of help that he was looking for. And I think there are some thoughts there that are in the version of a should, like I shouldn't have to do this, that I could probably help with. And

talk to me about his feelings of frustration or annoyance or anger. What is that like for him? And then if he's feeling understood and I'm getting him, I'd ask him if there's some type of help that he was looking for. And I think there are some thoughts there that are in the version of a should, like I shouldn't have to do this, that I could probably help with. And

If we were to revise that thought, he'd probably feel less upset as he's doing that work. So that would be my brief answer.

If we were to revise that thought, he'd probably feel less upset as he's doing that work. So that would be my brief answer.

Okay. Love that answer. Love that. If I ever have any legal problems, can I give him a call?

Okay. Love that answer. Love that. If I ever have any legal problems, can I give him a call?

I've just so enjoyed our time together. Thank you for having me on the podcast.

I've just so enjoyed our time together. Thank you for having me on the podcast.

Pleasure to be here, Rhonda. Thanks for inviting me.

Pleasure to be here, Rhonda. Thanks for inviting me.

Was it temazepam? Restoril?

Was it temazepam? Restoril?