Dr. Matt May

You've achieved, achieved enlightenment. I'm very jealous of you.

You've achieved, achieved enlightenment. I'm very jealous of you.

Well, sure. Harold, I really appreciate the question. The, if you're upset a lot about, you know, thoughts about the world, um, I would invite you to consider whether there might be should statements attached to those thoughts. You listed a couple of different thoughts. And at times, those will be very just true statements about reality. There's just a lot of suffering in life, for example.

Well, sure. Harold, I really appreciate the question. The, if you're upset a lot about, you know, thoughts about the world, um, I would invite you to consider whether there might be should statements attached to those thoughts. You listed a couple of different thoughts. And at times, those will be very just true statements about reality. There's just a lot of suffering in life, for example.

And the question I have is whether or not you're also telling yourself that it shouldn't be that way, that there shouldn't be so much suffering. If so, then there would probably be some help for you, and we could probably help address those as should statements the way we would any other self-directed should statement.

And the question I have is whether or not you're also telling yourself that it shouldn't be that way, that there shouldn't be so much suffering. If so, then there would probably be some help for you, and we could probably help address those as should statements the way we would any other self-directed should statement.

Only the path would be a little bit harder, because addressing a self-directed should statement, like I should be better, leads to immediate resolution of guilt, shame, pressure, etc.,

Only the path would be a little bit harder, because addressing a self-directed should statement, like I should be better, leads to immediate resolution of guilt, shame, pressure, etc.,

However, if it's outwardly directed, if you're saying the world shouldn't be this way, then you're not going to experience an immediate relief from guilt, but you're going to experience something different, which is an acceptance of the world around you, and you won't be as outraged or angry. And a lot of times people want to feel outraged and angry because it gives them a sense of purpose.

However, if it's outwardly directed, if you're saying the world shouldn't be this way, then you're not going to experience an immediate relief from guilt, but you're going to experience something different, which is an acceptance of the world around you, and you won't be as outraged or angry. And a lot of times people want to feel outraged and angry because it gives them a sense of purpose.

In fact, one of the main things that seems to draw people's attention is outrage. If they're presented with information that causes them to feel very upset, they're more likely to interact with it. They get kind of hooked on ideas that the world shouldn't be this way. And they'll keep clicking and focusing their attention on that.

In fact, one of the main things that seems to draw people's attention is outrage. If they're presented with information that causes them to feel very upset, they're more likely to interact with it. They get kind of hooked on ideas that the world shouldn't be this way. And they'll keep clicking and focusing their attention on that.

It's a very addictive substance is blaming and saying the world shouldn't be this way. So it's actually a little bit more challenging to defeat than an internalized, oh, I'm the problem, I shouldn't be this way kind of thought. But the same methods are effective.

It's a very addictive substance is blaming and saying the world shouldn't be this way. So it's actually a little bit more challenging to defeat than an internalized, oh, I'm the problem, I shouldn't be this way kind of thought. But the same methods are effective.

You could use the semantic technique, the Socratic technique, and talk back to all your reasons to get focused on this idea that the world should not be this way.

You could use the semantic technique, the Socratic technique, and talk back to all your reasons to get focused on this idea that the world should not be this way.

I'd be happy to.

I'd be happy to.

Yeah, there's a tremendous amount of suffering in life. And I've been thinking about you a lot recently and the suffering that you've been experiencing. And it seems really outrageous to me and preposterous that you'd be experiencing so much of that and so little joy after how much you've put in, how hard you've been trying. I'd be feeling pretty pissed off and angry if I were you. Yeah.

Yeah, there's a tremendous amount of suffering in life. And I've been thinking about you a lot recently and the suffering that you've been experiencing. And it seems really outrageous to me and preposterous that you'd be experiencing so much of that and so little joy after how much you've put in, how hard you've been trying. I'd be feeling pretty pissed off and angry if I were you. Yeah.