Dr. Matt May

And I wonder how you're doing. Could you tell me a little bit, a little more? I'm really glad you're talking about this with me.

And I wonder how you're doing. Could you tell me a little bit, a little more? I'm really glad you're talking about this with me.

Somewhere around, and that's a great question. I don't know. I don't think my grade really matters, just yours.

Somewhere around, and that's a great question. I don't know. I don't think my grade really matters, just yours.

That explains a lot for me, David. Thank you. I appreciate that.

That explains a lot for me, David. Thank you. I appreciate that.

You helped me a lot just to identify my own niceness and to change sort of the way that I approached dating and interacting with other people in general. Just to be a little bit more selfish was okay. And I really appreciated that one of the most important lessons you taught me is it's okay to get rejected. Yeah. And in fact, you prescribed that to me. You said, go get rejected a lot.

You helped me a lot just to identify my own niceness and to change sort of the way that I approached dating and interacting with other people in general. Just to be a little bit more selfish was okay. And I really appreciated that one of the most important lessons you taught me is it's okay to get rejected. Yeah. And in fact, you prescribed that to me. You said, go get rejected a lot.

And I did so. And that was the most liberating experience of my life to realize that a single rejection actually doesn't cause any harm in the grand scheme of things. In fact, 10 or 20 rejections doesn't cause any harm in the grand scheme of things. It's perfectly okay to get rejected. And after I did that and experienced that, then I felt much more free and liberated. And my anxiety went away.

And I did so. And that was the most liberating experience of my life to realize that a single rejection actually doesn't cause any harm in the grand scheme of things. In fact, 10 or 20 rejections doesn't cause any harm in the grand scheme of things. It's perfectly okay to get rejected. And after I did that and experienced that, then I felt much more free and liberated. And my anxiety went away.

And it just occurred to me, gosh, it's a matter of time until I find someone who's really appropriate for me. And linking that to the hidden emotion, That perhaps the person asking this question is suffering from is maybe they're getting distracted by world events and getting upset with the themes that are in the world rather than acknowledging that they felt a little rejected. Yeah. And angry.

And it just occurred to me, gosh, it's a matter of time until I find someone who's really appropriate for me. And linking that to the hidden emotion, That perhaps the person asking this question is suffering from is maybe they're getting distracted by world events and getting upset with the themes that are in the world rather than acknowledging that they felt a little rejected. Yeah. And angry.

And angry. And that's a very painful, upsetting set of feelings. And oftentimes nice people don't want to acknowledge that they feel angry or upset. They want to distract themselves with politics or other things. But I love that you were able to delve a little bit deeper with this person and get to where their real suffering is.

And angry. And that's a very painful, upsetting set of feelings. And oftentimes nice people don't want to acknowledge that they feel angry or upset. They want to distract themselves with politics or other things. But I love that you were able to delve a little bit deeper with this person and get to where their real suffering is.

Yeah, there was a little bit of an overcorrection error on my part. You helped me there as well. Thank you.

Yeah, there was a little bit of an overcorrection error on my part. You helped me there as well. Thank you.

Those can be just standalone negative thoughts that would respond to other methods than the hidden emotion. The hidden emotion would be just one of many different methods that could be helpful for someone who's upset about world events. And we could just ask, like, gosh, why wouldn't you want to be upset?

Those can be just standalone negative thoughts that would respond to other methods than the hidden emotion. The hidden emotion would be just one of many different methods that could be helpful for someone who's upset about world events. And we could just ask, like, gosh, why wouldn't you want to be upset?

There are so many world events right now that are affecting, you know, are just horrifying to consider, right? And it seems very appropriate to be concerned about them. And so to side with, gosh, that seems like an appropriate emotion to be feeling and to look at all the reasons to feel that would be one first step.

There are so many world events right now that are affecting, you know, are just horrifying to consider, right? And it seems very appropriate to be concerned about them. And so to side with, gosh, that seems like an appropriate emotion to be feeling and to look at all the reasons to feel that would be one first step.