Dr. Micaela (Dr. Michaela)

So signing a peace treaty conflict, right?

Yeah, that is, there is this kind of, I guess, inherent social structure or social norm of like, face to face can sometimes be, you know, combative in a way.

Right.

Right.

And this is completely off topic, but I love how you said, like, I will even like, I'm going to have a more challenging conversation and like hold her hand while I'm doing it or sit next to her or I'll like lay my head on my boyfriend's shoulder.

Right.

And so like, not only are we taking away the kind of like face-to-face combative, conflictual potential message, but your brain is actually getting messages of like safety or comfort.

Like this is good when we have that physical affection while we're engaging and

in a more challenging conversation that could be evoking other emotions, right?

Like I'm going to tell you that I'm really, really angry at you, but I'm going to do it while we're holding hands.

I mean, gently holding hands while my head is resting on you while I'm saying like, this was really hard for me.

And, and so that, that communication has the blend of the affection safety that your brain is getting.

In addition to the content, it gets softens that communication and it makes things so much more helpful.

Or maybe you do.

I don't know.

This one is a lot longer.

A lot of these things often come together with, yeah.

Yes, it does.

And what's fascinating is working with adolescents and young adults, there are a lot of... And you probably get this in your caseload of the young adults who were diagnosed ADHD and now are diagnosed BPD, right?

And there is such questionable diagnostic practicing out there sometimes, right?