Dr. Micaela (Dr. Michaela)

And I'm going to come back before the break is up.

But I'm only going to get through a few of the dishes.

Well, I did actually knock out all of the dishes because it turns out it didn't require as much of an investment as I needed to.

And so it's like, okay, I'm just going to do five minutes.

So I conquered one pile that time, but that's also because I'm historically better at conquering the dishes pile.

And that's with, even with all the people that I work with, they're thinking like, how could I ever organize...

any closet or anything because it's so overwhelming and I'm never going to get it all in one day and I have to do something later.

So it's like, no, that's not the expectation.

Let's start with literally five minutes, set a timer.

And then when my timer has a duck quack at the end, so when the duck quacks, stop.

And of course, that requires a little bit of impulse control because once you started, you're kind of like, but I must.

And so there's also practicing of that letting go, which is so freeing and then helps us learn.

You don't have to do all of the things all at once.

I mean, I think part of it is the filter, right?

But I think part of it is also the messaging.

So ADHD is a developmental disorder.

You were born with it.

So from the day you started being in this world until today, you've probably been getting messages that you're not doing it right, you're not working hard enough, you don't care, whatever.

uh, you're lazy, you know, are you stupid?

Are you just like, you don't understand things.