Dr. Molly Burrets

The very first thing is for people to know that going through infertility is one of the hardest, most poignant stressors a marriage can face.

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So baseline, what I want you to know if you're out there and you are having a hard time in your marriage because of infertility, that is to be expected.

It's really hard for me to imagine how a couple could go through infertility and IVF without having the stress impact the relationship.

You're not at your best.

You're constantly waiting on answers that are life-changing.

You are so out of control.

Any illusion of control that you thought that you had is totally gone.

And on top of it, there's this weird thing of like, now we have to time our sex at this time.

And sex goes from hopefully being something that was enjoyable and organic to like this very high stakes endeavor.

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It's stressful.

It takes something that the purpose of it is supposed to be connecting and fun and turns it into this high stakes endeavor that is very stressful.

So a lot of couples lose that way that they used to feel connected, right?

It takes something that used to be fun and is now not fun anymore.

So I guess the baseline that I want to start from is you're not alone.

Every couple going through this is having impacts on their relationship.

You might not see it from the outside, but it's happening.

The other piece is that, look, when you're going through infertility, if the infertility is due to a female factor, right?