Dr. Molly Burrets

Sometimes infertility is due to a male factor, right?

We're talking to a lot of women right now.

If it's due to a female factor, what's happening if you have a male partner is probably that he's feeling a lot of the same losses that you are feeling, except he's not the one going through them.

So it's like he doesn't have... I know my husband felt like the things we're going through are so hard, but...

but it's worse for you.

And so I have to be the strong one.

I can't really have my feelings about it because yeah, I'm going through it too, but it's worse for you.

And I think for my husband over time, two years,

That really takes a toll of always having to center your partner in their experience and kind of swallow your own experience to be the strong one.

For sure.

That really can really chip away at someone.

So I really recommend that men try to find like groups, support groups, people that they can talk to what they're going through because their experience is not centered in all of this.

And then it becomes really, really hard to show up in the relationships.

So people don't think enough about how this impacts men, you know, and it's very real.

Yeah.

And there's so many ways that the stress can show up in your marriage.

I'll share with you something that happened for us just to kind of give a hint of there's so many different ways that your marriage can be impacted based on your circumstances.

So I am seven years older than my husband.

Right.

And my infertility or my difficulty maintaining a pregnancy was due to age-related factors.