Dr. Molly Burrets

That's called TFMR.

And I would say that that's probably the most taboo topic still in infertility.

Yeah.

And there's a reason why you haven't heard it because people don't want to talk about it because it feels very shameful.

The choice to terminate a pregnancy for a baby that you very much wanted is very traumatizing.

Yeah, and going through that with my baby in the second trimester, what I thought to myself was, I can never do that again.

I can never go through that experience again.

And so I went through IVF not because I couldn't conceive, but because I wanted to have the process of testing my embryos to determine if there were any genetic abnormalities before becoming pregnant with them.

And I'm so glad I did because I'm so glad I did do it.

I'm so glad I was able to make it happen.

And it requires a lot of resources and privilege, right?

which is a whole other thing that I can get on my high horse about.

I retrieved overall 40 eggs and two of them were genetically normal.

So my first one, the first transfer that I did resulted in a chemical pregnancy, which was devastating because I knew I had one chance left.

And

And that's why I felt for you so, one of the reasons I felt for you so much when you were going through your transfer and all the uncertainties, because I watched that line on the stick get lighter and lighter and lighter.

And it was like being given something and having it taken away was horrible.

Brutal.

You know?

I know you know what that feels like because you were in that space.