Dr. Molly Burrets

And, you know, maybe 18, 20 months later after my son was born, we tried again and I got pregnant again right away.

And again, I told myself, wow, I've hit the jackpot.

I'm just one of these lucky people.

But that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage.

And I didn't have a ton of experience or expertise in people who were able to get pregnant but not stay pregnant.

More of my practice had focused on people who have difficulty conceiving, right?

And I didn't have difficulty conceiving.

A second time very soon after, we conceived again without much effort.

And I thought, okay, so, you know, I had my miscarriage.

Odds are that's over.

Now I'm going to have my baby.

And a really, really sad thing happened, which was that I lost that baby in the second trimester.

And I lost that baby because that baby had a chromosomal abnormality.

So that baby was really sick.

And that was, at that time in my life, the hardest thing I had ever gone through.

I don't think a lot of the community is familiar with the term TFMR, which means termination for medical reasons.

And this is the really heartbreaking experience of finding out that the baby that you have is extremely sick and may not make it to birth.

And if they do make it to birth,

will have an extremely compromised life of suffering or won't live very long.

And so many people make the choice to save their baby from that kind of suffering and terminate the pregnancy for medical reasons.