Dr. Nicole LePera

But I can understand now that I can be worthy in other moments.

I can be worthy in a moment of rest even because that's what we want to do.

Right.

We don't just want to understand why we're struggling.

Most of us want to change and limit or decrease the amount of struggle that we're having.

That's a beautiful definition.

I would say they shape our habits, our relational patterns, our personality traits, even our preferences.

And it's confusing because we've repeated them for so long outside of our awareness that some of us are – they even feel like –

They're who we are, right?

We feel like we're just choosing to be independent, especially if you grew up in a Western society, right?

Because relying on others at one time meant hurt or disappointment or sensitivity, right?

We've practiced being so hypervigilant to the environment for so long that we just feel like we're a highly sensitive person.

It's just who we are in temperament.

But in reality, that was a very adaptive hypervigilance or scanning for danger in unpredictable environments.

Ending it with my own example, right?

Drive can feel like ambition.

It's celebrated by society, right?

But again, that was the only way at one time that I could secure attention and therefore safety and connection when I needed it most.

100%.

I'm happy, Jonathan, that you're highlighting, right?