Dr. Nicole LePera

But now it has become what motivates me every day, though, of course, you know, the more reach there is, the more

opinions, interpretation, challenge, but also opportunity.

I'm so grateful that I have endless opportunity now to write books, to do things in pursuit of sharing this passion, but I have to be aware that there's still

a me with individual needs and an energy that runs out and I need to be make sure that I'm grounded and clear in my flow so that when I go contribute that I'm doing so from that inner place as opposed to because I was given the opportunity and I'm afraid to say no or because that's where I gain worthiness.

So I always am kind of trying to bridge that I still have those habits

And yet I still want to make an impact.

And so it's a daily conversation of how to be in that middle ground where I'm doing so because I want to give as opposed to gain something.

Speaking honestly, there was a time where I would always, right before I would go to answer a question, I would have the moment, much like a therapist, where I would kind of play, okay, how am I going to say this?

How could this land?

What could someone do or misinterpret from this?

And even that short moment of pause

takes me from flow, right?

Would result in the beginning of me maybe watering down something or dancing around a point that I've wanted to make.

And so how I've gotten better is I've learned that there is no perfect way to say things, that once you do release a piece of information, people are going to filter it through their own past experiences or simply not agree, not like what you're saying, not resonate.

And so it took

Me doing it, which is kind of even back to where we start this conversation, learning how to be in the discomfort of criticism, not being liked, not being for everyone that has allowed me to be in what I would call more of a flow state where you ask a question and I don't have to have that minute of, well, wait a minute, how will this land?

I can just say it.

And that has allowed me freedom.

What has allowed me to create that not only is practice, but boundaries, right?

Knowing who and when to take feedback from, because I think that's a very important part of being a human, being a leader, is hearing where our blind spots are.