Dr. Paul Conti

The idea of having a new and different life narrative, for example, it's not about finding something that feels better, right?

Or something that may be

Um, if you use it that way, it can help you make better decisions.

And what we're doing is looking for truth.

And very, very often the truth is so, so much better than the myth that we've carried forward.

And it could be, you know, men don't get sad or men only, only weak men cry.

And then like, that's true, right?

Why?

Because I carried the myth forward.

Right.

So if I say, well, I'm weak because I cried when I was a child, you know, you can go back and revisit that and say, well, when did I cry?

I got hurt here.

Like, gosh, I remember this or that.

And like, that seemed like anyone would cry because of that.

You know, maybe that's not true.

This lesson that I learned about myself and I built a narrative or a myth on top of it.

And I'm going to revisit that.

And through the lens of agency and gratitude, through the lens of a healthy self, I'm going to decide what that narrative is.

Right, right.

Generally, we have to put it into words.