Dr Paul Eastwick

So I haven't seen the data, but I would certainly buy the idea that that's happened to men more than women.

That, I would suggest, very well could be the problem.

So if we engaged as a society in a large loneliness intervention that got men off the couch and out into the world again meeting these women, I think things are going to go a lot better.

I'm not saying that women aren't going to be disappointed in these guys from time to time.

I hope that if they're not as educated that they've developed some other attributes instead of their dynamite in the kitchen.

But I think the real problem is people not meeting.

I mean, I almost always go back to that.

Yeah.

I mean, maybe like fix the sink.

Like, you know, there's lots of useful things that people can do to make themselves appealing.

Education is just one among many.

But the problem is that if you're dating online and you're swiping, it's all being used as a screening criterion.

So you're not even getting to the first date, much less interacting with somebody.

No, no, I know it does.

No, but this is the problem.

This is why online dating makes it all worse, right?

Online dating means like, oh, not only are the tens going to do way better than the sevens who are going to do way better than the fours, but I don't even need to bother interacting with you in the first place if you don't check all the boxes.

And to me, that's a bummer because what I know and what I've seen time and time again

is that the boxes that you think are so important, and again, gender doesn't matter on this.

Men do this too.