Dr Paul Eastwick

And maybe those people will be good long-term partners or maybe they won't be.

Do you see what I mean?

Like think about it as independent ways of measuring differences between people.

rather than as a single dimension that we're putting people on.

It actually gets more complicated than that, but we can sort of start there with the idea that the notches that somebody has on their bedpost, it just ultimately doesn't predict that much about how happy they'll be in their relationships.

You'll see people, you get this in the family studies community sometimes, we'll talk about like, oh, like,

having premarital sex is like bad for your marriage.

Like barely.

Those correlations are absolutely tiny.

I would not worry about that at all.

So it's stuff like that.

It is not the case that people who are more likely to have sex or eager to have sex early ultimately have worse relationships.

means that it's true is that a fair conception i love it i absolutely love it and so what you'd want if you're trying to date effectively in this world is you'd want to know like as i'm going on a first date with you what exactly would it mean if i you know made it clear i wanted to have sex with you tonight versus on day three versus on day five and to kind of put

play into the script that that person was wanting or expecting.

Again, also kind of depending on what it is that you want.

You know, maybe you're only like this person enough to want to have sex with them.

You're not really interested in something.

It didn't go anywhere.

Correct.

I get this intuition.