Dr. Peter Attia

Those adaptations have led to disconnection and maladaptive strategies. This could be things that are perceived of as quote unquote bad, like alcohol, drugs, gambling, but it could be also things that are perceived of as good, such as work or perfectionism. All of those things replace the sense of connection. So this is just an episode that I think you have to go back and listen to.

Those adaptations have led to disconnection and maladaptive strategies. This could be things that are perceived of as quote unquote bad, like alcohol, drugs, gambling, but it could be also things that are perceived of as good, such as work or perfectionism. All of those things replace the sense of connection. So this is just an episode that I think you have to go back and listen to.

But to me, that was the most important takeaway. He spoke about implicit and explicit memories. So people can explicitly remember an event and think objectively as I think about that. It didn't really impact me, but implicitly it is impacting them through anxiety or some other type of discomfort. He had a great saying, which is if it's hysterical, it's historical.

But to me, that was the most important takeaway. He spoke about implicit and explicit memories. So people can explicitly remember an event and think objectively as I think about that. It didn't really impact me, but implicitly it is impacting them through anxiety or some other type of discomfort. He had a great saying, which is if it's hysterical, it's historical.

So I think about this often when I overreact emotionally, when I calm down, I'm usually asking myself, what was that really about? Was it really about the thing that you blew up over or was there something deeper that this is reminding you of in terms of a vulnerability or something like that? Very important distinctions here between guilt and shame.

So I think about this often when I overreact emotionally, when I calm down, I'm usually asking myself, what was that really about? Was it really about the thing that you blew up over or was there something deeper that this is reminding you of in terms of a vulnerability or something like that? Very important distinctions here between guilt and shame.

Guilt is about, as he described it, making a mistake. Shame is about being a mistake. Some people refer to this as healthy shame and unhealthy shame. Again, it's not necessarily one way to think about this. Okay, we talked about the trauma tree. I've heard so many different people talk about trauma in so many different ways. I still think this is one of the better models.

Guilt is about, as he described it, making a mistake. Shame is about being a mistake. Some people refer to this as healthy shame and unhealthy shame. Again, it's not necessarily one way to think about this. Okay, we talked about the trauma tree. I've heard so many different people talk about trauma in so many different ways. I still think this is one of the better models.

And it's a tree because it has roots and it has branches. And the roots are below the ground and the branches are above the ground. And that is a metaphor for the fact that the roots or the causes... are not necessarily visible, while the adaptations, the branches, are indeed visible. So very important to understand in this model that intention is not a requirement for the roots of a tree.

And it's a tree because it has roots and it has branches. And the roots are below the ground and the branches are above the ground. And that is a metaphor for the fact that the roots or the causes... are not necessarily visible, while the adaptations, the branches, are indeed visible. So very important to understand in this model that intention is not a requirement for the roots of a tree.

What do I mean by that? Sometimes the wounding events, i.e. the roots, are not intentional. They're not driven by people who are intending to hurt. This is, I think, a very important thing for people dealing with trauma to understand because it's very easy to minimize an event that had an impact on you as a child.

What do I mean by that? Sometimes the wounding events, i.e. the roots, are not intentional. They're not driven by people who are intending to hurt. This is, I think, a very important thing for people dealing with trauma to understand because it's very easy to minimize an event that had an impact on you as a child.

For example, if you believe that the person who was responsible for this wasn't trying to hurt you, and that's often the case. So keep that in mind. So what are these? So the five roots of

For example, if you believe that the person who was responsible for this wasn't trying to hurt you, and that's often the case. So keep that in mind. So what are these? So the five roots of

are broken down as abuse which can be physical typically that is pretty deliberate emotional sexual again obviously these are generally quite deliberate religious so there's an example where it might not be with a mal intent but of course it has bad outcomes the next would be abandonment this can be physical abandonment literally someone being abandoned by a parent but it could also be emotional

are broken down as abuse which can be physical typically that is pretty deliberate emotional sexual again obviously these are generally quite deliberate religious so there's an example where it might not be with a mal intent but of course it has bad outcomes the next would be abandonment this can be physical abandonment literally someone being abandoned by a parent but it could also be emotional

Neglect, which is obviously distinct from abandonment in that the care provider is still present but is not paying attention to the child. Enmeshment, which is basically boundary violations, emotional incest. This happens when kids have to grow up far too quickly to be emotional caregivers or peers with parents typically. And then tragic events. These are pretty obvious, typically not subtle.

Neglect, which is obviously distinct from abandonment in that the care provider is still present but is not paying attention to the child. Enmeshment, which is basically boundary violations, emotional incest. This happens when kids have to grow up far too quickly to be emotional caregivers or peers with parents typically. And then tragic events. These are pretty obvious, typically not subtle.

We talk about war, we talk about things of that nature, violent events. Okay, so then we have the branches. And again, the branches are the adaptations here. And the important thing to remember here, and I think this is really helpful for anybody thinking through this for themselves or for others, is that adaptations typically work very well for the child that has been wounded.

We talk about war, we talk about things of that nature, violent events. Okay, so then we have the branches. And again, the branches are the adaptations here. And the important thing to remember here, and I think this is really helpful for anybody thinking through this for themselves or for others, is that adaptations typically work very well for the child that has been wounded.