Dr. Ramani Durvasula

But there's a second reason people don't walk away from the slot machine. What is that? After they've been paying it for four hours, put hundreds of dollars in it. Maybe they've won a hundred bucks back. They're 400 in the hole. Why don't they walk away?

But there's a second reason people don't walk away from the slot machine. What is that? After they've been paying it for four hours, put hundreds of dollars in it. Maybe they've won a hundred bucks back. They're 400 in the hole. Why don't they walk away?

Kind of, but there's something more. A lot of people don't get this. They don't want someone else to get it. Someone's going to come to this machine and they're going to reap my investment.

Kind of, but there's something more. A lot of people don't get this. They don't want someone else to get it. Someone's going to come to this machine and they're going to reap my investment.

Kind of, but there's something more. A lot of people don't get this. They don't want someone else to get it. Someone's going to come to this machine and they're going to reap my investment.

And I tell them, I tell my client, there's no jackpot. This machine is rigged. You're never going to get more than maybe 25 bucks out of it. And so if those $25 payouts are working for you, and my point of view and my approach with clients, with anyone, is that the whole idea of healing is building up individuation and an autonomous self that makes their own choices.

And I tell them, I tell my client, there's no jackpot. This machine is rigged. You're never going to get more than maybe 25 bucks out of it. And so if those $25 payouts are working for you, and my point of view and my approach with clients, with anyone, is that the whole idea of healing is building up individuation and an autonomous self that makes their own choices.

And I tell them, I tell my client, there's no jackpot. This machine is rigged. You're never going to get more than maybe 25 bucks out of it. And so if those $25 payouts are working for you, and my point of view and my approach with clients, with anyone, is that the whole idea of healing is building up individuation and an autonomous self that makes their own choices.

And to that end, I never tell anyone they have to leave. Not everyone can leave. Some people have minor children. There might be financial reasons. They say cultural or religious reasons. They say stay, a sense of duty or obligation. Not everyone can leave every narcissistic relationship. So part of the work then is finding the workarounds if you can't fully get out.

And to that end, I never tell anyone they have to leave. Not everyone can leave. Some people have minor children. There might be financial reasons. They say cultural or religious reasons. They say stay, a sense of duty or obligation. Not everyone can leave every narcissistic relationship. So part of the work then is finding the workarounds if you can't fully get out.

And to that end, I never tell anyone they have to leave. Not everyone can leave. Some people have minor children. There might be financial reasons. They say cultural or religious reasons. They say stay, a sense of duty or obligation. Not everyone can leave every narcissistic relationship. So part of the work then is finding the workarounds if you can't fully get out.

But more than anything, it's radical acceptance of what this relationship is really about. And there will never be a jackpot. But all is not lost. You can still heal. And one of the key pieces is that if you are going to stay in the relationship... You really, really need to develop your bench, as it were. You need to have your supports.

But more than anything, it's radical acceptance of what this relationship is really about. And there will never be a jackpot. But all is not lost. You can still heal. And one of the key pieces is that if you are going to stay in the relationship... You really, really need to develop your bench, as it were. You need to have your supports.

But more than anything, it's radical acceptance of what this relationship is really about. And there will never be a jackpot. But all is not lost. You can still heal. And one of the key pieces is that if you are going to stay in the relationship... You really, really need to develop your bench, as it were. You need to have your supports.

And a lot of people say, but my husband's supposed to take me to chemo. I'm like, you don't live in that world. But your friend has been offering, I will take you and we'll go and we'll watch silly shows on my computer. please go with that friend. Like there's a sense of, but that's what someone else was supposed to do for me. That radical acceptance is they're not taking you to chemo.

And a lot of people say, but my husband's supposed to take me to chemo. I'm like, you don't live in that world. But your friend has been offering, I will take you and we'll go and we'll watch silly shows on my computer. please go with that friend. Like there's a sense of, but that's what someone else was supposed to do for me. That radical acceptance is they're not taking you to chemo.

And a lot of people say, but my husband's supposed to take me to chemo. I'm like, you don't live in that world. But your friend has been offering, I will take you and we'll go and we'll watch silly shows on my computer. please go with that friend. Like there's a sense of, but that's what someone else was supposed to do for me. That radical acceptance is they're not taking you to chemo.

And if they do, they're going to complain the whole time, which is the worst thing that could happen for you when you're sitting in a chemo appointment. So it is helping people see that you have to cultivate supports. You have to cultivate meaning and purpose. You have to cultivate an authentic sense of you separate from the narcissistic person.

And if they do, they're going to complain the whole time, which is the worst thing that could happen for you when you're sitting in a chemo appointment. So it is helping people see that you have to cultivate supports. You have to cultivate meaning and purpose. You have to cultivate an authentic sense of you separate from the narcissistic person.

And if they do, they're going to complain the whole time, which is the worst thing that could happen for you when you're sitting in a chemo appointment. So it is helping people see that you have to cultivate supports. You have to cultivate meaning and purpose. You have to cultivate an authentic sense of you separate from the narcissistic person.