Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

Often we are comparing the worst version of ourselves with the best version of somebody else. And when we feel less than, we compensate with our behaviours. This is why this matters to me, Chris. So everything in Make Change At Last is this idea that Every single person is capable of making meaningful change in their life. I know that to be true. I have seen it time and time again.

I have seen patients in the darkest places with suicidal thoughts, and I've helped them turn their life around. So I know that it's possible for every single person. But in order to do that... We have to understand ourselves. We have to understand that our behaviours follow our beliefs. So if you have perfectionistic beliefs that it is possible to be perfect...

I have seen patients in the darkest places with suicidal thoughts, and I've helped them turn their life around. So I know that it's possible for every single person. But in order to do that... We have to understand ourselves. We have to understand that our behaviours follow our beliefs. So if you have perfectionistic beliefs that it is possible to be perfect...

I have seen patients in the darkest places with suicidal thoughts, and I've helped them turn their life around. So I know that it's possible for every single person. But in order to do that... We have to understand ourselves. We have to understand that our behaviours follow our beliefs. So if you have perfectionistic beliefs that it is possible to be perfect...

You will find that when you fall short, as you inevitably will, because none of us are perfect, we don't feel good. And that's what drives us to the pornography, to the gambling, to the sugar, to the alcohol. Those things are a consequence. They're not the cause of the issue. They're a symptom of the problem. So I think perfectionism is massive.

You will find that when you fall short, as you inevitably will, because none of us are perfect, we don't feel good. And that's what drives us to the pornography, to the gambling, to the sugar, to the alcohol. Those things are a consequence. They're not the cause of the issue. They're a symptom of the problem. So I think perfectionism is massive.

You will find that when you fall short, as you inevitably will, because none of us are perfect, we don't feel good. And that's what drives us to the pornography, to the gambling, to the sugar, to the alcohol. Those things are a consequence. They're not the cause of the issue. They're a symptom of the problem. So I think perfectionism is massive.

And, you know, it's something I've heard you talk about before when I write about at length is in chapter two, which is the chapter title is called Give Up Your Heroes. Yeah. I used to really put my heroes on a pedestal, Chris. I don't know if you did as a kid or not. I certainly did.

And, you know, it's something I've heard you talk about before when I write about at length is in chapter two, which is the chapter title is called Give Up Your Heroes. Yeah. I used to really put my heroes on a pedestal, Chris. I don't know if you did as a kid or not. I certainly did.

And, you know, it's something I've heard you talk about before when I write about at length is in chapter two, which is the chapter title is called Give Up Your Heroes. Yeah. I used to really put my heroes on a pedestal, Chris. I don't know if you did as a kid or not. I certainly did.

I don't know if one could admit this these days or not, but I started that chapter saying that when I was 14, I can remember a group in the northwest of England. On my wall, I had a life-size flag of John Bon Jovi. Okay, yeah. Okay. I don't know what that means from your facial expression. I just wonder where you went so wrong.

I don't know if one could admit this these days or not, but I started that chapter saying that when I was 14, I can remember a group in the northwest of England. On my wall, I had a life-size flag of John Bon Jovi. Okay, yeah. Okay. I don't know what that means from your facial expression. I just wonder where you went so wrong.

I don't know if one could admit this these days or not, but I started that chapter saying that when I was 14, I can remember a group in the northwest of England. On my wall, I had a life-size flag of John Bon Jovi. Okay, yeah. Okay. I don't know what that means from your facial expression. I just wonder where you went so wrong.

Okay, well, we could talk about musical taste maybe off the mic out there.

Okay, well, we could talk about musical taste maybe off the mic out there.

Okay, well, we could talk about musical taste maybe off the mic out there.

But why that's interesting and why I chose to open that chapter with that story is because I can see now very clearly how that kind of hero worship has been problematic for me, right? So I thought as a 14-year-old boy, wow, God, if I could be Jon Bon Jovi, my life would be perfect, right?

But why that's interesting and why I chose to open that chapter with that story is because I can see now very clearly how that kind of hero worship has been problematic for me, right? So I thought as a 14-year-old boy, wow, God, if I could be Jon Bon Jovi, my life would be perfect, right?

But why that's interesting and why I chose to open that chapter with that story is because I can see now very clearly how that kind of hero worship has been problematic for me, right? So I thought as a 14-year-old boy, wow, God, if I could be Jon Bon Jovi, my life would be perfect, right?

Touring the world, screaming fans, writing killer album after killer album, if you like that sort of thing at the time, right? Whatever your choice might be. But somewhere along the line, I believe that it was possible. And many of us believe that perfectionism is possible. I think it's got so much worse now with social media where we see these avatars online. They're not real.