Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

In that moment, I've learned I still got control over my mind and I can go longer, which basically means most things in life become quite trivial in comparison.

I don't believe in non-negotiables anymore.

I don't believe in non-negotiables anymore.

I don't believe in non-negotiables anymore.

Well, we've spoken about perfectionism, right? So let me try and draw a connection between this and perfectionism. As a perfectionist in recovery... I don't believe that this idea of non-negotiables is helpful to me. Because again, a non-negotiable implies that I will not negotiate on this. I will always do this. For me, there's hints of perfectionism there, right?

Well, we've spoken about perfectionism, right? So let me try and draw a connection between this and perfectionism. As a perfectionist in recovery... I don't believe that this idea of non-negotiables is helpful to me. Because again, a non-negotiable implies that I will not negotiate on this. I will always do this. For me, there's hints of perfectionism there, right?

Well, we've spoken about perfectionism, right? So let me try and draw a connection between this and perfectionism. As a perfectionist in recovery... I don't believe that this idea of non-negotiables is helpful to me. Because again, a non-negotiable implies that I will not negotiate on this. I will always do this. For me, there's hints of perfectionism there, right?

Because everything in life is negotiable, Chris. Everything. Nothing is a non-negotiable. So I could tell you, for example, that... I'm a calm, peaceful person, which I am, and I will never be violent. That's a non-negotiable for me, always going to be peaceful. Well, hold on a minute. What if I was out with my two children and someone was trying to attack them and threaten us?

Because everything in life is negotiable, Chris. Everything. Nothing is a non-negotiable. So I could tell you, for example, that... I'm a calm, peaceful person, which I am, and I will never be violent. That's a non-negotiable for me, always going to be peaceful. Well, hold on a minute. What if I was out with my two children and someone was trying to attack them and threaten us?

Because everything in life is negotiable, Chris. Everything. Nothing is a non-negotiable. So I could tell you, for example, that... I'm a calm, peaceful person, which I am, and I will never be violent. That's a non-negotiable for me, always going to be peaceful. Well, hold on a minute. What if I was out with my two children and someone was trying to attack them and threaten us?

my non-negotiable suddenly becomes negotiable. I could quite easily believe in that moment I could become violent. If it was to protect my two children, who I love with all my heart, yeah, I probably would. That may seem quite extreme, but I love going to extremes, Chris, because I think it's in the extremes where you learn the veracity and the truth about a concept.

my non-negotiable suddenly becomes negotiable. I could quite easily believe in that moment I could become violent. If it was to protect my two children, who I love with all my heart, yeah, I probably would. That may seem quite extreme, but I love going to extremes, Chris, because I think it's in the extremes where you learn the veracity and the truth about a concept.

my non-negotiable suddenly becomes negotiable. I could quite easily believe in that moment I could become violent. If it was to protect my two children, who I love with all my heart, yeah, I probably would. That may seem quite extreme, but I love going to extremes, Chris, because I think it's in the extremes where you learn the veracity and the truth about a concept.

Edith Egan in Auschwitz at the extreme. She was living in hell and even in hell, she could reframe her experience using her mind. I used that in my life to go, hey, Rangan, you're struggling to reframe what that driver did or that email that someone sent you. You know what, Rangan? Edith could reframe stuff in Auschwitz. You can probably reframe this in your life, right?

Edith Egan in Auschwitz at the extreme. She was living in hell and even in hell, she could reframe her experience using her mind. I used that in my life to go, hey, Rangan, you're struggling to reframe what that driver did or that email that someone sent you. You know what, Rangan? Edith could reframe stuff in Auschwitz. You can probably reframe this in your life, right?

Edith Egan in Auschwitz at the extreme. She was living in hell and even in hell, she could reframe her experience using her mind. I used that in my life to go, hey, Rangan, you're struggling to reframe what that driver did or that email that someone sent you. You know what, Rangan? Edith could reframe stuff in Auschwitz. You can probably reframe this in your life, right?

I use it as inspiration for me, not to beat me up, to inspire me, right? And so why non-negotiables for me can be a problematic concept. I think I've also got to be clear, Chris, different concepts land for different people in a different way depending on where they are in life, right?

I use it as inspiration for me, not to beat me up, to inspire me, right? And so why non-negotiables for me can be a problematic concept. I think I've also got to be clear, Chris, different concepts land for different people in a different way depending on where they are in life, right?

I use it as inspiration for me, not to beat me up, to inspire me, right? And so why non-negotiables for me can be a problematic concept. I think I've also got to be clear, Chris, different concepts land for different people in a different way depending on where they are in life, right?

So let's say you're struggling with your health and you're feeling lost, you're feeling lonely, you don't know how you're gonna get any motivation to move forward in your life. A non-negotiable might actually be really good for you where you go, no, actually every day I'm gonna wake up, I'm gonna do that five minute workout and I'm gonna go and have a cold shower for 30 seconds.