Dr. Rhonda Barofsky

Okay, Matt, you never listened to me. Last night we were talking after dinner and we made a plan and it was really specific. I told you exactly what I wanted. You asked me lots of questions and I gave you really specific answers. And then this morning when we were talking about it again, you got it all wrong. And it wasn't anything about the plan that we made.

Okay, Matt, you never listened to me. Last night we were talking after dinner and we made a plan and it was really specific. I told you exactly what I wanted. You asked me lots of questions and I gave you really specific answers. And then this morning when we were talking about it again, you got it all wrong. And it wasn't anything about the plan that we made.

And I'm, you know, because you never listened to me exactly what I'm saying. It's so frustrating.

And I'm, you know, because you never listened to me exactly what I'm saying. It's so frustrating.

I would give you – I definitely would give you a 95 percent. Well, I give you –

I would give you – I definitely would give you a 95 percent. Well, I give you –

Yeah, I was really hurt that you didn't, that it seemed like you didn't, pay attention to what I said. And I was a little scared that maybe there was some reason why you're not hearing what I've said. Maybe I was scared. Are you not hearing me? Are you not having the cognitive ability to understand what I said? So I got a little scared and it was irritating.

Yeah, I was really hurt that you didn't, that it seemed like you didn't, pay attention to what I said. And I was a little scared that maybe there was some reason why you're not hearing what I've said. Maybe I was scared. Are you not hearing me? Are you not having the cognitive ability to understand what I said? So I got a little scared and it was irritating.

I felt sad.

I felt sad.

Well, I hate to admit it, but I did feel angry.

Well, I hate to admit it, but I did feel angry.

So, Matt, can you give it another go at paraphrasing?

So, Matt, can you give it another go at paraphrasing?

Now that totally was a 95. Actually, that was 100 because I liked how you added the defeated and hopeless part.

Now that totally was a 95. Actually, that was 100 because I liked how you added the defeated and hopeless part.

Yeah, me too. What happens if one of the two partners – oops, I'm interrupting you both constantly. Sorry.

Yeah, me too. What happens if one of the two partners – oops, I'm interrupting you both constantly. Sorry.

I'm thinking of it could tell you a lot of things. It could tell you they're not listening. They're not paying attention. They think that their thoughts are more important than the other person's. Some impatience and maybe even some irritation that they have to be doing this exercise in the first place.

I'm thinking of it could tell you a lot of things. It could tell you they're not listening. They're not paying attention. They think that their thoughts are more important than the other person's. Some impatience and maybe even some irritation that they have to be doing this exercise in the first place.